Hi
I hope it is okay if I explain my situation and ask for feedback. If this isn’t allowed I apologize in advance. I am looking for advice, opinions, and a little support.
My Uncle is diagnosed with dementia. He was living with us for two years or so. It became too much for my family and I to care for him and we ended up having to take him to the hospital and place him in a long term care home. He has been at the care home for a while now, my mom says that she visits him but I feel like she is not honest entirely or not visiting enough and I would like to visit him myself to check up on his wellbeing and overall care he is receiving. I hear a lot of sad situations go on in care homes or nursing homes so it has me very worried and anxious. My mom said that every time she has gone to visit they tell her she can not see him due to Covid and outbreaks which I can understand fully to an extent. I have called the facility asking if it is possible for me to visit or plan to visit my uncle and every time that I personally have spoken to staff they are very hesitant and say no because of Covid. I overall am a very anxious person I hope you can understand where I am coming from. I worry that he is not taken care of in good terms and that they are isolating us from visiting to check on him. Right before we had him placed in the home he was rapidly declining seriously bad and that terrified me to no end. He has several other health issues along with his dementia. My question is do you think they are honestly having that bad of outbreaks where we are not allowed to physically check on him or do you think they are isolating us from him? In no way am I putting down the care facility nor anyone who works there by all means I am sure they are doing the best of their abilities to tend to every patients needs. I am just worried is all you know? We can’t call him they won’t let him have a cellphone and honestly I am unsure if he knows how to use a cellphone at the stage he is in so in person would be the best way for us to be able to communicate and observe him.
