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talk about spectrum

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I went to a lecture last night by a paediatric neurologist about new directions in autism. There were some interesting ideas that have given me something to think about, I thought I might share the points that struck me.

On the autistic spectrum a division was made between about 1.5% who qualified for an official diagnosis and up to 30% who had significvant social interaction difficulties on that account, but were outside official diagnosis. That at least is comforting with regards to people saying everyone is on the spectrum. Why more of the 30% aren't diagnosed seems to lie with politics and maintaining statistics about health, as well as the cost factor.

I had formed my own theory that my difficulty socialising caused me to overly analyse and worry about why I couldn't socialise properly, and why things went wrong. And that led to low self esteem and anxiety.

The perspective I heard last night was that NTs don't develop an understanding of social cognition processes because it happens instinctively so they don't have to analyse it and don't think about how it comes about (so presumably don't even remember social gaffs). Whereas people on the spectrum by necessity analyse social interchanges and become expert at it (but at the cost of increased stress and worry).

Main message was the need to increase self esteem and self confidence, and give children on the spectrum space to explore and expand their knowledge. A lot of harm done by trying to get children on the autistic spectrum to be like their parents, or fit parental ideas of success. The evidence seems to be that given the opportunity to develop special interests and skills, many children on the spectrum do better.

Which brings me back to an underlying concern of mine, voiced in the lecture, that early diagnosis may be imposing unnecessary restriction by trying to change things, and doing more harm than good.

I confess I'm not sure where my preconceived ideas merge with the talk in this synopsis, so if anyone has heard similar talks, but not sure I've got the facts right,  its a personal impression here. Likewise apologies to anyone giving such talks if I've got things askew.

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  • I need to come back on the bullying issue. As I said there isn't anything on line.

    If someone is socially isolated at school, the bullying, which is forced social interaction, may be one of few really deep social interaction experiences. Therefore this is likely to affect an individual's perception of relationships.

    Although I'm responding to something said in passing in a lecture, it has set me thinking about this.

    I had great difficulty in my twenties and thirties, and beyond even once I was wise to it, with people who try to lead you into a negative view of yourself. It is a game played in the workplace and in pubs and anywhere else people are together. There are some people who like to engage susceptible people in a conversation which turns everything on the downside, the negative, seeing the worst, and enjoy the feeling of power as their victim gets more and more wrapped up in their manipulations.

    I've grown up with a bad tendancy to self negate and self deprecate. This isn't helpful - as the saying goes, "don't knock yourself down, there are plenty around to do it for you" or somesuch. It also means you present an image of someone lacking self esteem and self confidence. That persisted until my diagnosis gave me confidence, and I became better at avoiding it.

    I venture to suggest that that's an example of bullying addiction.

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  • I need to come back on the bullying issue. As I said there isn't anything on line.

    If someone is socially isolated at school, the bullying, which is forced social interaction, may be one of few really deep social interaction experiences. Therefore this is likely to affect an individual's perception of relationships.

    Although I'm responding to something said in passing in a lecture, it has set me thinking about this.

    I had great difficulty in my twenties and thirties, and beyond even once I was wise to it, with people who try to lead you into a negative view of yourself. It is a game played in the workplace and in pubs and anywhere else people are together. There are some people who like to engage susceptible people in a conversation which turns everything on the downside, the negative, seeing the worst, and enjoy the feeling of power as their victim gets more and more wrapped up in their manipulations.

    I've grown up with a bad tendancy to self negate and self deprecate. This isn't helpful - as the saying goes, "don't knock yourself down, there are plenty around to do it for you" or somesuch. It also means you present an image of someone lacking self esteem and self confidence. That persisted until my diagnosis gave me confidence, and I became better at avoiding it.

    I venture to suggest that that's an example of bullying addiction.

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