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Is this "bolting"?

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Hi all, 

So I was diagnosed with autism as an adult about a year and a half ago. It's been a bit wild since then, trying to learn and unlearn stuff on my own. I've been trying to do what I can, but I'm really struggling to identify what traits and behaviours are feeding in to each other. 

One thing I struggle with is the need to "run" from overwhelming situations. This can be physical, such as an argument where I will have to literally remove myself out of rising feelings of panic and claustrophobia, but it can also happen online, like in group chats or video games, so not literal "running" but I am compelled to cut all ties and run off. 

I thought this was maybe just anxiety, maybe a meltdown, but I've come across "bolting" in my research. I'm wondering if anyone else experiences this sort of...not-literal-running "bolting" need, or if I need to keep figuring it out!

Any advice at this point would be much appreciated, as I'm at a loss and really want to sort this out. 

Thanks

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  • I change my friendship group every couple of years. It's just easier. Once people start thinking they're close enough to bother me outside of the usual context in which I see them, it's easier to make new friends than to manage that kind of relationship. I make liberal use of blocking on social media. Again, it's easier, and I like that online communication facilitates that kind of cutting off. Work-wise I'm self-employed so there's a natural turnover of platforms and clients. Estranged from family. I've never experienced any negative consequences or regret from bolting. I don't understand why people ever keep contact with people who are causing them difficulties, unless they're physically dependent on them.

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  • I change my friendship group every couple of years. It's just easier. Once people start thinking they're close enough to bother me outside of the usual context in which I see them, it's easier to make new friends than to manage that kind of relationship. I make liberal use of blocking on social media. Again, it's easier, and I like that online communication facilitates that kind of cutting off. Work-wise I'm self-employed so there's a natural turnover of platforms and clients. Estranged from family. I've never experienced any negative consequences or regret from bolting. I don't understand why people ever keep contact with people who are causing them difficulties, unless they're physically dependent on them.

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