- Struggling to sleep due to playing scenarios over and over in my head and having constant internal voices. Easier to pop the kettle on and just quite the fight.
- Love
- Poppy
- X
Autistics can be naturally analytic. There are a few ways to solve this.
Backstory: My grandmother would tell me if she and my grandfather had an argument she wouldn't be able to sleep. unresolved issues were maddening to her. As I grew older I began to understand what she meant, only I thought this affected most others. She was puzzled why he could just snore away and there she was wide awake.
My guess is most adults who might be stealth Autistics ('high functioning') back then weren't in need of diagnosis. Society was more accepting of different personality types and the strengths/weaknesses they presented. Sensory overload wasn't as chaotic as it has become since the late 90s.
While she was raised in an era where women weren't encouraged to raid a library or a university or a mentor for answers, I was not about to let this brain I'd inherited of hers to be up all night troubleshooting problems.
So, what I've discovered is psychology and sociology and even theology have certain understandings into the human condition. C S Lewis talks about the Laws of Human Nature and how taking an important element out of "Love" can turn it into selfishness. Then there are books and blogs on how to problem solve without compounding problems. Chesterton wrote quite a lot of columns to help readers recognise the different between seemingly similar behaviours. Arrogance vs Confidence for instance.
One of the most difficult problems we experience involves not understanding N-Typical social 'isms'. As I've learned to understand philosophically how society grows and shifts in respect to human matters of ethics - these internal laws we all feel to be a guide (moral compass), it's helped know who is worth investing in and what sort of relationships I want and what is not worth thinking about. It has helped prioritise and disengage when necessary. I've learned when to keep a guard up and how to be more responsible with others, not just myself.
Some problems won't have immediate solutions. It can be good to just write everything out - get it out of your head and onto a document or into a notebook. Begin to untangle the mess of problems and find the fundamental ones to work on which everything else hinges on.
Autistics can be naturally analytic. There are a few ways to solve this.
Backstory: My grandmother would tell me if she and my grandfather had an argument she wouldn't be able to sleep. unresolved issues were maddening to her. As I grew older I began to understand what she meant, only I thought this affected most others. She was puzzled why he could just snore away and there she was wide awake.
My guess is most adults who might be stealth Autistics ('high functioning') back then weren't in need of diagnosis. Society was more accepting of different personality types and the strengths/weaknesses they presented. Sensory overload wasn't as chaotic as it has become since the late 90s.
While she was raised in an era where women weren't encouraged to raid a library or a university or a mentor for answers, I was not about to let this brain I'd inherited of hers to be up all night troubleshooting problems.
So, what I've discovered is psychology and sociology and even theology have certain understandings into the human condition. C S Lewis talks about the Laws of Human Nature and how taking an important element out of "Love" can turn it into selfishness. Then there are books and blogs on how to problem solve without compounding problems. Chesterton wrote quite a lot of columns to help readers recognise the different between seemingly similar behaviours. Arrogance vs Confidence for instance.
One of the most difficult problems we experience involves not understanding N-Typical social 'isms'. As I've learned to understand philosophically how society grows and shifts in respect to human matters of ethics - these internal laws we all feel to be a guide (moral compass), it's helped know who is worth investing in and what sort of relationships I want and what is not worth thinking about. It has helped prioritise and disengage when necessary. I've learned when to keep a guard up and how to be more responsible with others, not just myself.
Some problems won't have immediate solutions. It can be good to just write everything out - get it out of your head and onto a document or into a notebook. Begin to untangle the mess of problems and find the fundamental ones to work on which everything else hinges on.
