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Why don't parents with autistic children LISTEN to autistic adults?

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After a recent debacle in Ontario with a local dog rescue implementing a ban on adopting out dogs to families with autistic children - I stumbled into the Ontario Autism Coalition group on Facebook. I totally missed the part in the rules that says ABA therapy is not abuse - only after reading a post from a mom asking about ABA therapy. I'm shocked - when there is so much evidence that says it is traumatic and harmful. Why do these parents not listen to autistic adults??? Do they not understand their autistic children will in fact, grow up to be autistic adults?? How the hell are we supposed to get through to these people? I obviously left the group because I knew if I tried to say anything I would get the boot. I'm so frustrated.

  • Being Offended seems baked in to NeuroTypical thinking and it is having a peak. 100 years ago discourse and thoughtfulness would've probably been promoted but I personally have a feeling that when corporations are allowed to use advertising to regulate group-think among NTs, that anything less than intensely skilfully crafted on their terms is so outlandish that it's dismissed. What's more, someone knowing my child better than I do is a form of dominance between NeuroTypical (neurotic) individuals. 

  • I understand your frustration and we as autistic people are experts on being autistic.  ABA is a form of behaviourism and basically teaches autistic people that they should mask their natural autistic way of being, therefore it is traumatic.I think after ‘diagnosis’ parents usually only have access to unnecessarily medicalised descriptions of autistic experience and therefore are directed to ‘autism’ organisations or sometimes harmful’ ‘therapy’. The whole basis of ‘diagnosis’ stems from the pathology paradigm. Parents typically only access the autistic community if they use social media.

  • The analogy with gay conversion therapy is quite telling and like conversion therapy addressing aba probably has to go through the political sphere not a parent / education sphere. Some parents will never accept the true reality of their kids autism. We can't rely on educating them. But educating law makers is a different mater.