Published on 12, July, 2020
So I've had my formal diagnosis report through which comes with a summarised version for me to give to my employer which I have now done. Mixed feelings about it honestly, on the one hand I'm excited that I've got the paperwork to back me up now but also apprehensive about changing things and how my employer will take it.
I know that legally they have to do something to accommodate my requests but it's still nagging me that I've managed for nearly 8 years before these changes on my own. All be it with fluctuating motivation. Has anyone else gone through similar?
I work in a office of a small department of a SME, everyone knows everyone kind of place.
The sort of things I've asked for:
I don't think I'm asking for much really but I know me moving desks means one of my 5 colleagues will have to move too unless everyone shifts about, both of which will probably cause a stir.
FenchurchDawn
Thank you both for your input with this. Thought I'd give an update as I just had the meeting an hour ago!
All my adjustments were discussed and mostly agreed. The only areas of compromise were the sound cancelling headphones which I agreed are a bit extreme and there aren't many occasions I feel I need that level of isolation. So have agreed to use normal ear buds so I can block out general chatter but will be able to hear if someone needs me.
I will also answer the phone if I'm the only one there or everyone is busy which is fair. Same for answering the door to clients. They were surprised as I apparently am very friendly and welcoming which was nice to hear. I'm also allowed to take short breaks when I need them and only have to tell someone if I'm away from my desk for an extended period of time.
My biggest worry was around the moving of desks but thankfully they are looking at getting another member of staff so would require a reshuffle anyway. SO in a few weeks I will be in the corner facing the room again which makes me very happy.
Overall they were very supportive of the diagnosis and what it means to me and really just wanted to understand it and how it affects me. As I have been there nearly 8 years some things surprised them i.e how social I am in the office where I know everyone but outside of it I'm not.
just one more thing everyone misses everytime
ProbablyTheWay said:They were surprised as I apparently am very friendly
ProbablyTheWay said:surprised them i.e how social I am in the office where I know everyone
where is their contribution?
It was expected from you to know everyone and socialize correctly, but what about them? Did they know you exist even?
Mariusz (sorry might not have understood your comment entirely)
in this particular scenario yes - everyone in my department (all 5 of them!) Know me well and I'd estimate 90% of the staff in the entire company know of me because of my job role.
A few clients must remember me as they gave positive feedback to others about me. The majority won't though which is fine with me I don't want to have anything to do with them most of the time!
Once I explained that I don't struggle to socialise in our very small department of people I've known for years but do with large groups or people I don't know they got it.
ok. that's very good. good joob btw. It sounded like people interviewing you had no idea you existed, and it got me furious.
I don't struggle to socialise in small groups as well
Customers recognise me too, I moved from ALDI to LIDL and they find me at LIDL and they're suprised often.
I only get in trouble with new managers that expect people will bow to them