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Am I being unreasonable?

stranger

I don't see how I am. But I would appreicate opinions from others.

Basically, someone on the spectrum is obsessed with me and keeps sending me messages on Facebook. I asked him to stop contacting me all the time. He claimed that's what friends do. He's moaned a few times because he doesn't see me that often.

We met at an Autism group and a few times, I've said for various reasons, I'm not going, which seems to have really upset him. He also wasn't happy that I said I wasn't going somewhere with him due to noise. He can't understand that's a form of torture.

He said last night that he wants to get the branch officer of the Autism group, him, me and his two support people together to sort this out.

There's nothing to sort out. He just needs to understand that I don't want to be contacted all the time.

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  • stranger said:

    The police did say something which has upset me - he has learning disabilities, which supposedly means he doesn't know right from wrong, therefore, his behaviour is ok. Except, it's not ok and he's not so low functioning that he doesn't understand that what he's doing is wrong.

    He knows what he's doing and seems to be using his learning disabilities as an excuse.

    Hi stranger,

    That's very concerning. "Not knowing right from wrong" reminds me of the insanity defence; which is all very well in court, but I'm not sure it's really the business of the police to write off a genuine concern about stalking on that basis - much less accuse you of being in the wrong!

    (Obviously I'm not a lawyer; please don't take anything I say here or elsewhere as legal advice!)

    Maybe you could write to your local police commissioner, explaining the problem?

    Alex R

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  • stranger said:

    The police did say something which has upset me - he has learning disabilities, which supposedly means he doesn't know right from wrong, therefore, his behaviour is ok. Except, it's not ok and he's not so low functioning that he doesn't understand that what he's doing is wrong.

    He knows what he's doing and seems to be using his learning disabilities as an excuse.

    Hi stranger,

    That's very concerning. "Not knowing right from wrong" reminds me of the insanity defence; which is all very well in court, but I'm not sure it's really the business of the police to write off a genuine concern about stalking on that basis - much less accuse you of being in the wrong!

    (Obviously I'm not a lawyer; please don't take anything I say here or elsewhere as legal advice!)

    Maybe you could write to your local police commissioner, explaining the problem?

    Alex R

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