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Am I being unreasonable?

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I don't see how I am. But I would appreicate opinions from others.

Basically, someone on the spectrum is obsessed with me and keeps sending me messages on Facebook. I asked him to stop contacting me all the time. He claimed that's what friends do. He's moaned a few times because he doesn't see me that often.

We met at an Autism group and a few times, I've said for various reasons, I'm not going, which seems to have really upset him. He also wasn't happy that I said I wasn't going somewhere with him due to noise. He can't understand that's a form of torture.

He said last night that he wants to get the branch officer of the Autism group, him, me and his two support people together to sort this out.

There's nothing to sort out. He just needs to understand that I don't want to be contacted all the time.

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  • It might have been wise to inform him somewhere along the way (if you hadn't done so already) that he hadn't offended you (before it got to stalking phase) you just didn't want to choose to be his close friend, you just wanted to be an acquaintance.  If it wasn't spelled out to him he will have found it easier to misread and maybe thought he'd done something wrong to upset you, especially as he seems to have problems that way generally from what you said.  Sorry if you did spell it out to him early on, but your posts don't say.

    As it went as far as it did, be on the lookout in case he still won't take no for an answer and hangs around and tries to bother you as you leave the group or follow you or something.  It might be an idea just to mention it to the police as a by-the-by in case he continues harrassing you in another way.  Hope that doesn't scare you but you need to be cautious.

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  • It might have been wise to inform him somewhere along the way (if you hadn't done so already) that he hadn't offended you (before it got to stalking phase) you just didn't want to choose to be his close friend, you just wanted to be an acquaintance.  If it wasn't spelled out to him he will have found it easier to misread and maybe thought he'd done something wrong to upset you, especially as he seems to have problems that way generally from what you said.  Sorry if you did spell it out to him early on, but your posts don't say.

    As it went as far as it did, be on the lookout in case he still won't take no for an answer and hangs around and tries to bother you as you leave the group or follow you or something.  It might be an idea just to mention it to the police as a by-the-by in case he continues harrassing you in another way.  Hope that doesn't scare you but you need to be cautious.

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