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Am I being unreasonable?

stranger

I don't see how I am. But I would appreicate opinions from others.

Basically, someone on the spectrum is obsessed with me and keeps sending me messages on Facebook. I asked him to stop contacting me all the time. He claimed that's what friends do. He's moaned a few times because he doesn't see me that often.

We met at an Autism group and a few times, I've said for various reasons, I'm not going, which seems to have really upset him. He also wasn't happy that I said I wasn't going somewhere with him due to noise. He can't understand that's a form of torture.

He said last night that he wants to get the branch officer of the Autism group, him, me and his two support people together to sort this out.

There's nothing to sort out. He just needs to understand that I don't want to be contacted all the time.

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  • Thanks Jon.

    I've had a response from a member of the branch committee. (the branch officer isn't too well; so this member is acting on her behalf) He's not happy either. He doesn't believe that my actions are unreasonable. He's told me to leave it with him and it will get sorted. He thinks that this person doesn't understand what "no" means. It's also clear that this person has issues; but it's not right that he takes his issues out on me.

    He may need to speak to other people from NAS; but he's made it clear that my name won't be mentioned.

    Next week is going to be difficult - we're hoping that branch meetins are returning to normal. No doubt he'll be there. But I know I can't ignore him forever.

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  • Thanks Jon.

    I've had a response from a member of the branch committee. (the branch officer isn't too well; so this member is acting on her behalf) He's not happy either. He doesn't believe that my actions are unreasonable. He's told me to leave it with him and it will get sorted. He thinks that this person doesn't understand what "no" means. It's also clear that this person has issues; but it's not right that he takes his issues out on me.

    He may need to speak to other people from NAS; but he's made it clear that my name won't be mentioned.

    Next week is going to be difficult - we're hoping that branch meetins are returning to normal. No doubt he'll be there. But I know I can't ignore him forever.

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