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Am I being unreasonable?

stranger

I don't see how I am. But I would appreicate opinions from others.

Basically, someone on the spectrum is obsessed with me and keeps sending me messages on Facebook. I asked him to stop contacting me all the time. He claimed that's what friends do. He's moaned a few times because he doesn't see me that often.

We met at an Autism group and a few times, I've said for various reasons, I'm not going, which seems to have really upset him. He also wasn't happy that I said I wasn't going somewhere with him due to noise. He can't understand that's a form of torture.

He said last night that he wants to get the branch officer of the Autism group, him, me and his two support people together to sort this out.

There's nothing to sort out. He just needs to understand that I don't want to be contacted all the time.

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  • You may not wish to go that far with this, but you do have legal rights if someone is pestering and harrassing you. It should be possible to look up the service on your local authority/police on their website. Harrassments can be recorded as an incident, and repeated incidents can be acted upon.

    Things have got jumbled up a bit because the Government have forced a "hate crime" label onto the previous harrassment framework, so that may confuse the issue. You may have to look under disability hate crime for the harrassment procedure, even though its not hate crime.

    You have a right to be able to live your life without someone stalking you, just because they think you can help them but you don't want to get involved. Particularly your own autism means you need to avoid that kind of stress. So you have disability rights here.

    Also NAS should have some pages on this. It really is relevant to autism needs.

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  • You may not wish to go that far with this, but you do have legal rights if someone is pestering and harrassing you. It should be possible to look up the service on your local authority/police on their website. Harrassments can be recorded as an incident, and repeated incidents can be acted upon.

    Things have got jumbled up a bit because the Government have forced a "hate crime" label onto the previous harrassment framework, so that may confuse the issue. You may have to look under disability hate crime for the harrassment procedure, even though its not hate crime.

    You have a right to be able to live your life without someone stalking you, just because they think you can help them but you don't want to get involved. Particularly your own autism means you need to avoid that kind of stress. So you have disability rights here.

    Also NAS should have some pages on this. It really is relevant to autism needs.

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