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Practicing conversations

Jess_Lomas

Does anyone else practice conversations before they take place. 

Also comment other things you do/did that were due to your autism but you didn't know it at the time 

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  • I wish I did. My autistic friend says he has scripts in his head ready to deploy but he also worked in customer service and can switch on this persona in a way I can't. Of course thats just masking and I'm sure it tires him but I wish I could own it and pretend to be an actor like him - create  a clear seperation that I am in control of. instead of people pleasing leaking into all my interactions and exhausting me.

    I tend to ruminate on conversations after the fact - i didnt realise this was me trying to analyse what had happened to be more successful and therefore safer in future. The other day I had the thought that I wish my next special interest would be inane neurotypical conversation. I worry other people can sense the robotic-ness that I feel when I engage in small talk and will dislike how uncanny I come across.

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  • I wish I did. My autistic friend says he has scripts in his head ready to deploy but he also worked in customer service and can switch on this persona in a way I can't. Of course thats just masking and I'm sure it tires him but I wish I could own it and pretend to be an actor like him - create  a clear seperation that I am in control of. instead of people pleasing leaking into all my interactions and exhausting me.

    I tend to ruminate on conversations after the fact - i didnt realise this was me trying to analyse what had happened to be more successful and therefore safer in future. The other day I had the thought that I wish my next special interest would be inane neurotypical conversation. I worry other people can sense the robotic-ness that I feel when I engage in small talk and will dislike how uncanny I come across.

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