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Quite an intense shutdown.

Oakling

Between meltdowns and shutdowns, I tend, historically speaking, to experience meltdowns a lot more often than the latter. But today I experienced what can only be described as a shutdown and it was deeply unpleasant and just as frustrating as any of my previous meltdowns.

It was of course caused by the chaos of being around a lot of other people and not being able to make sense of the world in front of me. Just when I think I’m getting the hang of it, people seem to change and a new presentation of behaviour reveals itself in front of me that everyone else is seemingly okay with or able to adapt to and I’m the only one left scratching my head at it all. Well not so much scratching my head as much as feeling immensely lost, frustrated and cross at myself for not being able to navigate it effectively.

Anyways, apologies for the moan. Just felt like I needed to put words to the experience.

Parents

  • It’s horrible when it happens, I find it’s as if everyone is shouting at you all at once. It is a sensory overload, we can’t filter out what’s not needed so we protect the brain by shutting down. Always better to talk about something than bottling it up otherwise we just beat ourselves up over it.

  • in reply to Roy

    The world just sometimes feels like a very hectic and confusing place. Some days I can navigate it and others I cannot. I felt like writing this post would help a little, and I think it is, but I can’t seem to shake the feeling of shame I’m having at the moment. Perhaps in time it will pass. Thanks for your reply though- it’s good to know that I’m not alone in experiencing this.

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  • in reply to Roy

    The world just sometimes feels like a very hectic and confusing place. Some days I can navigate it and others I cannot. I felt like writing this post would help a little, and I think it is, but I can’t seem to shake the feeling of shame I’m having at the moment. Perhaps in time it will pass. Thanks for your reply though- it’s good to know that I’m not alone in experiencing this.

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