Parents - do you fear your kids have friends over?

Hi there,

I have found today extremely difficult. Both of my children had a friend over at different times. I knew I would be anxious - new people in my space but my goodness, I have barely coped and so glad my partner was here. I should add they are teenagers so do not require ‘care’ as young children would so they were all safe and looked after.

I just wondered if anyone had the same thing? Or is it just me?! I’ve tried to pinpoint the actual emotion and why I might feel it, although it’s difficult,

Emotions: anxiety, fear. Confusion

Reasons? New person with different smells and different voices etc. may cause sensory overload? Fear of rejection? Feeling out of control - sometimes I’m not sure enough about whether the visiting kids should follow our house rules or should I be a bit more lapse as they are guests? I also feel on the spot if they ask me a question - even a simple one like ‘can I have a drink please?’ It’s like I don’t know what to say or how to act?

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  • I can relate so much. I've only been diagnosed less than a month now so I'm reflecting back on everything.

    The biggest nightmare for me was masking because my home is my safe space to be myself so throw visitors into the mix, it's not good. Young teenage visitors, omg the struggle on how to talk to them without embarrassing myself and them. Dreadful. I noticed even my children acted differently with their friends around. It just felt like a pantomime.

  • Thank you for replying! I definitely feel better that I am not the only one. Not sure why that is a comfort, but it is Thumbsup 

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