Problems for my daughter

Good evening, my daughter Jade has autism and has developed a new problem which I'm not sure how to handle or what to do. She's 26 and has always been in her own little world, I've never had a problem with this and helped and supported her with everything. When she wants to play I'll play with her, she still loves her toys and make believe games. She's very childlike at times and I love that. She's a very special girl and I love her so much.

But lately Jade is really different and I'm a bit worried. Here's what's happening. She is calling herself a different name, first and last, and she seems to really believe that she is a different person. At times Jade doesn't recognise me or her sisters, that's really upsetting but it's worse for her because when she doesn't know us it scares her and she'll meltdown. Her other problem is that Jade thinks she's pregnant, she walks like she is and complains that she's aching and feels sick. She wants to see a doctor because she's worried about the baby. I would do this for her but if she sees a doctor like this surely they'll treat her like a crazy person? I really don't want that for my daughter. And she has meltdowns with doctors, she just can't cope with those situations.

I am at a loss of what to do for Jade. 

I want to call a doctor but I know how much it will effect her. She'll meltdown and scream, cry, flip basically. Jade cannot cope with these things. 

Do you think this could be a part of her autism? Or do you think it's something more than that?

Whatever it is I really need some help right now because I don't know what to do for the best to help her.

  • Thank you for sharing. I know it must be difficult and you are clearly just wanting to do the best for your daughter. 

    I would echo Dawn's comment and reach out to the doctor, would it be possible for you to speak to them beforehand in order to seek advice and minimise any anxiety (or exacerbation thereof) for Jade? 

  • The autistic imagination especially in girls can be powerful, but this sounds like more than that.  It does sound like a break with reality and whilst I wouldn't dare diagnose and no one here could, I would be mindful of the possibility of a psychotic break.  

    She does need to see someone to establish what is going on for sure.  Can you talk to the doctor first so that they can take a real softly, softly approach with her?