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Does anyone else feel that they will never succeed

NAS78666

Hi

I'm having a problem right now where my mind keeps telling me that I won't make it and that I will never succeed in life, does anyone else have this? I've been trying to get my life back on track sense I had to leave work in October due to mental health issues and I just feel hopeless and helpless. I feel like no matter what I do I'll always be at the bottom, I've never achieved anything in my life no matter how hard I tried and feel like I was just born a loser.

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  • Yes I feel this all the time. I'm not successful at anything really. No friends, no job, no skills as such. Just a long list of failures trailing behind me the last 25 years. It's so depressing.

  • in reply to Verity Shor

    My son says this a lot - even though he’s still very young and I feel it’s such a shame to feel like that when you’ve barely got started on life. I’ve felt this way too - as has my husband (who is more ‘mildly’ autistic but has many autistic traits. Being autistic can make it hard to be successful in the conventional sense of the word - the career and materialistic sense of the word. But there are myriad different ways to make a contribution to society and to the world. For example a care worker isn’t paid much, and not as highly valued by society as they should be - but a care worker can transform people’s life by being kind, thoughtful and caring. There’s so many ways that we can make an important contribution - even just by being kind to others rather than exploiting and being mean to people. The Dalai Lama says it’s valuable to do good deeds if you can do that - but that if you’re not in a position to do that you can make an important contribution to the world by just not doing any harm. So even that way we can do good - just by what we are NOT doing. 
    we shouldn’t be so harsh on ourselves and think of ourselves as failures. Being autistic does often make life more difficult in many ways - we shouldn’t blame ourselves for finding life difficult. It is difficult - and it takes courage to face difficulty. We might not all be massively thriving but we are trying our best  most of the time - we should give ourselves credit for that. It’s hard but we don’t give up - we keep trying to make our lives better in every way we can. 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    It is what it is

    After all what matters is the journey itself

     

    bravely facing unknown

    staring into the infinity

    forget about the start

    it's to crowdy to attract

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