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Job Interviews - a very public torture

mrs.snooks

Just recovering from having a job interview. And recovering is the word! 

As you may know I already have a job but I saw an ad for soemthing I was really interetsed in. I spend a day cramming interview skills and I wasn't prepared enough even if I were not autistic.

Now I am trying to stay positive as I at least did have something to say.... but it was such a trainwreck of an interview and now I'm here with insomnia because I keep relieving how awful it was. I am going through all my responses and just thinking OMG why on earth did I say that. I know there's something about being yourself.... but what was I thinking.

It's not so much about not getting the job... as there are other reasons not to accept the role even if they offered it to me. It is the fact that it feels like a very public humiliation! I'm just hoping that everyone on the interview panel is also autistic and didn't notice about how badly my repsonses were. But I don't think that is how managment tends to be.

Has anyone used the NAS support for interview skills?

I'm just hoping that someone on the forum can relate and tell me that it can just be how it is. I know that the adbvice is often to get work through other techniques such as through being known for a good worker. And I guess this is how I have managed to get to being in work. But I just feel awful inside.

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  • Please don’t feel so bad about yourself for this experience - it’s entirely normal to feel this way after a job interview! I don’t think there are many people - autistic or not autistic - who haven’t felt this way about a job or college interview in their time. They do sometimes go quite badly - and you can learn from any mistakes you might have made and what you’ve learnt can be incredibly useful for the next time. It’s likely though that it wasn’t quite as bad as you imagine - because when we obsessively go over an experience that wasn’t good we do tend to hyper focus on the negatives - and this really magnifies them. I doubt that those interviewing you hardly noticed most of the things you are worrying so much about. 

    You’ll probably be able to find it slightly funny eventually when you look back on it. But whatever - don’t beat yourself up about it - it happens to everyone. At least you had the courage to actually GO to the interview! 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    This is great advice!! So true that we tend to focus on the negatives (at least I do that). 

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  • in reply to Ann :)

    I'm lucky now, i'm retired now, so no more interviews, at least for jobs. But when i was younger. I worked in offices and stayed in a couple of jobs i didn't like 'cos i knew if ui left it would mean having to start going for interviews. I ended up self-employed driving a taxi, there were times i never liked that, but i could work by myself.