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Routine??

L56

Hey

My 6 year old is currently starting the assessment process for aspergers and i'm looking for a few ideas.

Jack relies on the structure and routine of the school day (he gets very anxious when he can't go). We find that during the weekend he appears very unsettled, very obsessed with time what he would be doing at school should it be a school day, will only have lunch when he would do so at school etc. He tends to get more wound up as the day goes on.

I'm wondering if it would be beneficial to make the weekends/holidays more structured for him? Do you think it would be a good idea to make a timetable for days off so he knows what to expect??

Thanks Louise

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  • Hi 

    I used to be like that. I would constantly say 'I should be in this lessson' in the holidays and I missed the routine of knowing what lesson to do when, knowing what clothes to wear and it being the same, having the same lunch etc. all these things that stay nice and the same. :) I still do miss most of them, why do things get less structued when you get older? 

    I think that having a timetable really helps me and without it I really struggle. The less detailed it is then the harder it is for me to be settled. At the moment I have 8 lessons a week at collage scaterd at strange times so I am constantly unsettled with no set routine for each day which is really hard.

    I think that having a more structured timetable would help me and would also help you. Could you do a weekly timetable for him? I imagine that he does different things at school each day, could you continue that for weekends. I think it would be good to make things the same each day if possible, like mealtimes, bed and getting up times etc but to also make weekends different from school days.

    I also think that mum of 3's idea of having 'free time' is a good one. I am currently trying to juggle setting myself more structure to make life easier but not so much that I become very dependant on it and end up stuck in the same routine-which is very hard to get the balance right! So I think having time that does not have one set thing is a very good idea. :)  Or if the time was not specific e.g. 'Family time' you all do something as a family but what it is could be different each week might also work.

    Hope this helps
    Amy  

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  • Hi 

    I used to be like that. I would constantly say 'I should be in this lessson' in the holidays and I missed the routine of knowing what lesson to do when, knowing what clothes to wear and it being the same, having the same lunch etc. all these things that stay nice and the same. :) I still do miss most of them, why do things get less structued when you get older? 

    I think that having a timetable really helps me and without it I really struggle. The less detailed it is then the harder it is for me to be settled. At the moment I have 8 lessons a week at collage scaterd at strange times so I am constantly unsettled with no set routine for each day which is really hard.

    I think that having a more structured timetable would help me and would also help you. Could you do a weekly timetable for him? I imagine that he does different things at school each day, could you continue that for weekends. I think it would be good to make things the same each day if possible, like mealtimes, bed and getting up times etc but to also make weekends different from school days.

    I also think that mum of 3's idea of having 'free time' is a good one. I am currently trying to juggle setting myself more structure to make life easier but not so much that I become very dependant on it and end up stuck in the same routine-which is very hard to get the balance right! So I think having time that does not have one set thing is a very good idea. :)  Or if the time was not specific e.g. 'Family time' you all do something as a family but what it is could be different each week might also work.

    Hope this helps
    Amy  

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