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Autism and grief

Bluezone

Hi I've recently been diagnosed with autism at the age of 55, after spending most of my life struggling. And 2-weeks ago my friend died, I've know him for over 25 years. And I'm finding it very hard to process and to understand the situation( I've had a meltdown or a very bad panic attack?) Where I live (Hereford) there's no autism support for adults for me to have a chat with.  

  • Hi Bluezone, I am so sorry for your loss of your friend. As Shardovan, Hello kitty 09, and WeeMe have said, if it will help, this is a place to share and vent.

  • Hi Bluezone, I'm so sorry your going through this right now and to hear about your friend, may he rest in peace. I can understand how you feel with this, between ages of 9 and 15 I lost my mum and my sister and at the time I was a wreck, couldn't process it, constant meltdowns and attacks. I just couldn't cope with what had happened. What I learned from it was that we all cope with death and grief in different ways and that there is no right or wrong way to handle it. You do it in your own way and that's just fine. But it is important that you talk about how your feeling, so if it helps please talk to us here. You can vent here or tell us about your friend, what he was like and the good times you both shared. 

    :) 

  • Hi. I’m so sorry for your loss. This is a safe place to vent. I was 6 when I was diagnosed with autism. Losing someone is real hard especially a friend. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to feel those emotions. Hugs 

  • Hi Bluezone. I’m terribly sorry to hear of your loss, that must be devastating to lose a good and long term friend. I don’t seem to have any meet up groups near me either, and the social anxiety one I was part of a while seems to have drifted apart (who’d have thought!) but this online community has already helped me get my bearings and some valued advice and support (I’m 44 and just got diagnosed too) , and I hope it will be the same for you. 

    this is a good safe space to vent, and explain your inner experience of life’s challenging events. Losing someone is such a huge deal that what you’re feeling would be normal for anyone. Add neurodivergence into the mix and… yeah, very difficult. I hope this place can take the edge of your anxiety and suffering, even just a little each day, while you try to come to terms with so much.