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I need to talk to my dad but I don't know how to.

Abigail

I need to tell my dad about me looking at getting an autism diagnosis because I need to get a DSA evidence form filled out so I have the evidence because I don't ha e the diagnosis yet but I am on the waitlist. I have no idea how to tell him or how he will react because the last time I told him something like this (when I got a dislexia screening done at college) he basically told me that I couldn't have it and listed all the reasons why it was "impossible" (because he hasn't noticed a problem before, because it hasn't been picked up before by teachers at school). It really broke my trait with him and I find it really hard to talk to him about stuff like that, even when I know it will help and if I need to tell him. It makes me start to panic.

I know I need to tell him because I need him to take me tomorrow because he isn't at work. How should I go about doing this?

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  • I don't think their is any good way to do it.  Also by leaving it late you don't have time to really explain it.  So I would simply tell him.  If he says no or freaks out, I would go anyway and explain to your doctor that you have a parent that is hostile towards the diagnosis process and you wish to undertake it as an individual.  The diagnosis process doesn't 100% need a parent.

    I asked my parents to take part in my process and they refused and said their was nothing wrong with me and that i shouldn't look for excuses.  So I did it without them.  I got my diagnosis and I just accept they have a hostile view towards what i have done.  They have a somewhat limited outlook in these respects and think autism = making excuses.

    So it's up to you.  You said you are at college, so I can't see why you couldn't omit your parent(s) from the process.  It would be best discussed with your doctor.

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  • I don't think their is any good way to do it.  Also by leaving it late you don't have time to really explain it.  So I would simply tell him.  If he says no or freaks out, I would go anyway and explain to your doctor that you have a parent that is hostile towards the diagnosis process and you wish to undertake it as an individual.  The diagnosis process doesn't 100% need a parent.

    I asked my parents to take part in my process and they refused and said their was nothing wrong with me and that i shouldn't look for excuses.  So I did it without them.  I got my diagnosis and I just accept they have a hostile view towards what i have done.  They have a somewhat limited outlook in these respects and think autism = making excuses.

    So it's up to you.  You said you are at college, so I can't see why you couldn't omit your parent(s) from the process.  It would be best discussed with your doctor.

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