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sphynx

Hi everyone,

My report came through a coupkkle of weeks ago, and whilst I’m relieved by and grateful for the diagnosis, the report doesn’t seem at all representative of who I feel myself to be. My dad told them things that make me think he really doesn’t know me; the assessors say I missed opportunities to ask the examiner questions, and that I showed 

‘some’ interest in their thoughts and feelings. I usually enjoy good 1-1 conversations, and I really care about how others feels and do my best to engage with people accordingly. I didn’t do this in the assessment because it was supposed to be an enquiry into me and my experiences, and how they may/may not relate to ASD/C. It wasn’t a social occasion, and I felt very awkward and inauthentic. In theory I agree with the outcome, but the dissonance between the report and how myself and others perceive me makes me uncertain. I have tried expressing these concerns to one of the assessors, but they didn’t seem to think there was anything significant about them. I would value people’s thoughts. Thanks in advance.

  • in reply to Caelus

    That's so true. Also, loved the Shrek reference! 

  • in reply to Caelus

    its kinda like what shrek said, out of the movie, shrek! lol
    we are like onions, we stink.... oh no wait... we have multiple different layers. each person may see a different layer of your persona.

  • everyone percieves you in a different way, and we all have multiple sides to ourselves we save for different people, perhaps your dad just percieves a part of you your not aware of.

    im very different person to person, my sister only sees me as overly serious and chooses that to be the main me, while others see me as a none-serious joking laid back clown. both are true, what one sees of you could be another aspect of yourself that your not aware of.

  • If you don't mind me asking, does it say you are more or less social/connected/talkative/empathetic than you think yourself to be?

    Not so much these days, but I tend to adapt my behaviour to the person I am talking with, which means there is a bit of a mask put on. However, in a situation like this I would expect trying to be more myself, but I may not even know how to do it, which may mean I am less communicative.

    I am speculating, because I am still waiting for an assessment myself so I don't know how it works.