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Letting go of things

Sassenach

I have always find it hard to let go of things, whether they are important or not. As a child, I remember crying and being agitated when my mum got rid of my ancient bed and I refused to sleep in the new one for several nights. I broke my heart and was so upset for my mum when the brand new toy umbrella I got for Christmas blew away just a week or so later.  Fast forward, as an adult, I am not exactly a hoarder by any means, but I find it very hard to detach and take old clothes to the clothes bank, or replace an item of furniture etc. I currently have 3 single mattresses from when the kids were still at home. These were going into storage as far as I knew, but I have been told today that there won't be any room for them, and they will have to be dumped or sold. The person who is dealing with this, said they would buy new ones for when my grandson is older, but I feel quite stressed and resentful over this. I guess it's mostly down to my resistance to change, but explaining the stress involved is stressful in itself. 

  • I am most terrified of the changes where I can do the new thing.

    After the change I’m grateful to the courage and sacrifice of my past self for having taken the necessary tiniest steps which are involved in doing the new thing. 

    But most of all these situations are where I know the value of my faith in a power on which  I can rely 

  • I did a few clear outs, but still have so much brought with me to my new home.

    I washed the remainder of the clothes I brought with me, which haven't been worn since, this afternoon. There isn't enough room on my clothes horses. 

  • I’m the same if it’s been with me for a long time I can’t get rid of it, it can be mainly things like my tv, my ps2,3 and 4 even furniture, I won’t give my old clothes away I’ll only pass them down to my family. 

  • Letting go of material things is akin to being expected to relinquish the memory. While it's important to expel something for the sake of hygiene, is there something of those you can cut off and keep? Or even a ritual-like process you can go through to help release them? For instance, buying a journal and writing out memories associated with those beds - just a sort of stream of conscious with a goal of filling the pages in a week or two, cutting a piece off and putting it in a bonfire, and then researching and envisioning the new replacement for the grandkids, so you're prepped and looking froward, bringing those memories which are weightless, with you. 

  • I'm the same, hate change and when it happens it throws me instantly overwhelmed and stressed. I try to keep to the same routine every day and I don't get rid of anything, keep all my old toys, birthday cards.. I keep everything :)

  • I hate change as well. I think it's normal for autistic people to find change stressful. I'm a creature of habit, I end up doing the same things every day and struggle to get rid of things even I haven't used them in years.