Making decisions

I am rubbish at making decisions. I used to put it down to being a Libra, but I now realise it is due to a lack of confidence and autism playing it's part. When faced with making a decision or making changes, my head considers every little thing that could go wrong, and every person that could be affected. I don't seem to consider any positives unless they're pointed out to me. I am often too exhausted at the end of all the catastrophising to make the decision and have to do it another time. This includes booking trips away, making appointments, ordering something online, changing the garden, etc etc. I am fed up tying myself in knots! This has got worse since I got older, (although I was pretty bad when younger too) yet I am in a better living environment than I have ever been in, so maybe the uncertainty of the pandemic plays a part in this now. Does anyone else struggle like this? 

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  • Yeah, this is 100% me. Overthinking every little detail and all the things that could go wrong. When I try to not overthink and make gut feel decisions it has gone wrong in the past and put me off so I have a tendency towards being really cautious. At work I have to make lots of decisions so my the end of the day I have complete decision fatigue and will avoid making them at all costs. NT wife is the same so we're useless come 5 o'clock!

    I'm similar with hobbies too - when I'm looking to start a new project I'll try to plan everything as I hate getting to the end and thinking I shoul dhave made something bigger/smaller/added in some other detail. As a result most of my ideas never get past the planning stage! 

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  • Yeah, this is 100% me. Overthinking every little detail and all the things that could go wrong. When I try to not overthink and make gut feel decisions it has gone wrong in the past and put me off so I have a tendency towards being really cautious. At work I have to make lots of decisions so my the end of the day I have complete decision fatigue and will avoid making them at all costs. NT wife is the same so we're useless come 5 o'clock!

    I'm similar with hobbies too - when I'm looking to start a new project I'll try to plan everything as I hate getting to the end and thinking I shoul dhave made something bigger/smaller/added in some other detail. As a result most of my ideas never get past the planning stage! 

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