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Would your life have been different if you’d been diagnosed earlier?

NAS76602

Hello all,

Like a lot on here I was diagnosed later on in life, in my fifties and fairly recently. My daughter asked me if my life would have been different and would I go back and change it if I could. 

I had to think about this, and I’m still trying to work it out. My initial answer is yes I really do wish I’d have been diagnosed earlier and had educational plans in place and maybe not bullied as much and gotten my degrees a few years earlier than I did. 

BUT……

Im ok with who I am, and maybe my struggles are what made me who I am and maybe without struggles I’d not have built the resilience I have. 

I thought it was a good question. Do you guys wish you’d have been diagnosed earlier on in life? And if so would your life have been different to how it is now?

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  • If i was diagnosed as a child i would of become an evil genius and dominated the world by now. With my stuffed animal companion being my silent accomplice. but unfortunately i wasn't. i was segregated by my siblings both blood related and step. not become that problematic child who was prevented from having friends because my parents valued other parent opinions over the wellbeing of their son.

    my mum and stepdad started to resent me and did anything to force me into work so i could support myself and leave. unfortunately they soon realized i couldn't integrate into their expected workplace and trapped me on benefits and took my entire income to pay for their bills. until i was diagnosed at 22 and given support because my situation became a safeguarding issue.

    i would of probably gotten my GCSE when i was in secondary school, i would of gotten some direction and support into getting into something related to a special interest and not forced into doing animal care at college and pulled out of college because my parents wanted me to work and leave the family home at age 17. to being physically and mentally traumatised by co worker poisoning, drugging and hurting me. 

    i would of probably got removed from my mother and stepdads care and protected from the abuse of my older siblings. probably wouldn't of been sexually assaulted by my step sisters. May be if i was diagnosed my parent would paid more attention to the psychopath of my older brother and alot of animals could of been spared. if i was diagnosed as a child maybe my parents would of got advice that didn't result in my step dad and my brothers putting abattoir grade cleaning products in my food and i wouldn't have bile acid malabsorption and crohn's disease.

    maybe if i was diagnosed earlier i would of been protected better in high school and not escaped goated and found a friends and not taken advantage off. 

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  • If i was diagnosed as a child i would of become an evil genius and dominated the world by now. With my stuffed animal companion being my silent accomplice. but unfortunately i wasn't. i was segregated by my siblings both blood related and step. not become that problematic child who was prevented from having friends because my parents valued other parent opinions over the wellbeing of their son.

    my mum and stepdad started to resent me and did anything to force me into work so i could support myself and leave. unfortunately they soon realized i couldn't integrate into their expected workplace and trapped me on benefits and took my entire income to pay for their bills. until i was diagnosed at 22 and given support because my situation became a safeguarding issue.

    i would of probably gotten my GCSE when i was in secondary school, i would of gotten some direction and support into getting into something related to a special interest and not forced into doing animal care at college and pulled out of college because my parents wanted me to work and leave the family home at age 17. to being physically and mentally traumatised by co worker poisoning, drugging and hurting me. 

    i would of probably got removed from my mother and stepdads care and protected from the abuse of my older siblings. probably wouldn't of been sexually assaulted by my step sisters. May be if i was diagnosed my parent would paid more attention to the psychopath of my older brother and alot of animals could of been spared. if i was diagnosed as a child maybe my parents would of got advice that didn't result in my step dad and my brothers putting abattoir grade cleaning products in my food and i wouldn't have bile acid malabsorption and crohn's disease.

    maybe if i was diagnosed earlier i would of been protected better in high school and not escaped goated and found a friends and not taken advantage off. 

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  • in reply to Blue

    Oh Lord, hun. Do you have support now?

    You've had a double burden. Autism without guidance is one thing, but not insurmountable. Autism in the midst of that kind of abuse ...it hurts me to think what you've been through. ND or NT you needed protection and got none.

    I wish I had words...