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Realisation after changes in your life

Stimpson

Hi there.

I’ve now got a 4 and 2 year old girls who are amazing and very full on. Nobody is diagnosed… but…. Since having kids I’ve really struggled. I’ve always pondered about autism for years but never really dug into it. But after the last year I started doing some tests etc and scoring high to suggest traits are similar. Ps I’m 46 and a bloke and now I’m obsessed about this and can’t stop my head thinking about diagnosis or what to do.
Anyway, Ive always managed day to day. Getting through ok. Keeping the smile on and not having many melt downs. But that changed since the added stresses of the kids have come along. And the added noise (which I’ve really struggled with). And the added “fly off the handle” moments because of silly things (like the Yorkshire puds not being perfect therefore I’ve ruined everything!!). Not sure if it’s because I don’t get any time to sort my head out like before or just the added stress is now bringing the traits out more…..and reading a lot of information and posts on here has really hit home with how I feel.

But I guess im asking out there if anything like that has happened to anyone else… changes in your circumstances has made you understand more about what’s going on in your head due to not managing as well as before?

Thanks anyone for reading!! 
just needed to get something off my chest.

  • in reply to Dawn

    Thanks Dawn. Already starting to really think about triggers and how I react. Plan to take some time morning and night just to keep things calm and remind myself to relax. And thinking on how to manage some things that won’t go away… like the dog barking! And getting daddy shouted from 2 directions with the TV on… started to wear earphones more and it’s really helping me focus and not explode!! 
    early days… thanks for the reply.

  • Yep! Parenthood is a stress, but sounds like you might make it less stressy with the benefit of a proper assessment. The fact that you can't stop thinking about it is a big clue.

    Kids btw are a joy, but mercifully a joy that grows up. Love my lad to absolute bits but soooooo glad he's an adult now.

  • I don't know how much this will help you, but when I went to see a GP I basically offloaded on him and told him my whole life story *without* ever even mentioning autism, and he recognised the symptoms just from what I told him and referred me to a specialist then and there. The waiting list was comically long, though, so be prepared for that. It might be worth trying to do something similar and offloading everything you're experiencing onto a GP. There's also a lot of symptom overlap between autism and ADHD too, and they can also sometimes be comorbid, so explaining everything might also help doctors to catch that possibility as well.

    GPs can be hit and miss, especially since the pandemic, so if one GP is dismissive, feel free to be as dismissive back and ask to see a different one until someone takes you seriously. You deserve help, everyone does, so don't stop trying.