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Housing

Chimes

Hi everyone, I wrote on here before about housing a while ago but didn't go anywhere with that so writing again.

I'm 29 and have aspergers, ocd, depression and anxiety. I want to live more independently but don't work due to my conditions and get esa and pip benefits. I currently live with my mum who is my carer as well and I know she can't look after me forever but I have know idea where to go about housing but was wondering if I qualify for housing benefits?

I live in Portsmouth if that helps.

Would be great to read more info about how I go about living more independently in my own place.

  • in reply to Dawn

    Yeah finding it hard to find anything about supported housing. Yeah I can do some stuff by myself but others stuff I don't have to do yet until i hopefully live more independently. 

  • At 29 you should get housing ben. I'm just wondering if there's any chance you could get in on a sheltered housing project, so you'd get your independence but with someone there to support you as and when needed. 

    I bet your mum worries about your future too. Can she help you transition to a life style like that now, while she is  spritely enough to do that?

  • I'm in a similar situation, with the added frustration of parents who have no respect for basic privacy. I'm not even really allowed to go anywhere, or have friends and such over, not without their permission. I feel like a child instead of an almost 30 year old woman.

    To top it off, my older sister recently had her first child, and since she's been going back to work, our mother takes on childcare and I'm not coping with the big disruption it causes.

    All I really want out of life now is a place of my own that I can feel completely at home in, and have my pets with me. Not sure how to achieve that though, since I'm unemployable, and the disability benefits I am on currently are a bit...tricky, so I'm not sure if I can get housing benefits just yet.

    The longer I stay here for, the worse my anxiety, depression and depersonalisation is getting. Wish there was more active help available regarding this sort of thing. People keep saying to suck it up, but why should we? Why should we be stuck and perpetually treated like children indefinitely? Why should our parents have to be stuck because of it too? No one asked for this.

  • in reply to Chimes

    Your benefits should be ok hopefully... These people are professionals so in theory they should see how capable you are and what you can handle and do. 

    Supported living looks like a good way forward. I also looked at moving out but I don't think I could cope on my own and even if I could it's so expensive I don't think I could afford it! Jobless now so won't be going anywhere anytime soon.

  • in reply to Stephen

    Yeah was looking at supported living as well. Just worried if i get a care assessment they will think i'm fine where i am and worried that my benefits will get affected as well cause they might think if i want to live by myself that i can do loads of things that i can't.

  • I’m currently looking for somewhere to live.

    with you receiving pip. Your local council will house you in a priority banding. It will be a property that suits your needs.

    there is also supported living.. independent but still have staff working there. 

    you will probably need a care assessment act off the social services too so they can see the level of support you’ll need. 

  • Be grateful that you have a home with your mother.  Getting your own place is difficult.  Housing benefit is capped so it will only cover poor properties.  You need a job and reasonable income to afford a decent place.  Getting a job while being autistic is difficult.