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Parent doesn't believe diagnosis

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I was diagnosed in my thirties. After spending such a long time struggling to fit in to a largely neurotypical world this came as a relief, and allowed me to make more sense of my experiences.

I'm aware that a lot of people in a similar situation are met with cynicism and get the 'you don't look autistic' response, but what I wasn't expecting was such dismissal and disbelief from one of my parents. I also feel like this attitude belittles the struggles of autistic people, because they don't believe they are dealing with anything beyond what is 'normal'. 

Does anyone have advice, or been in a similar situation? 

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  • My mum was a bit like this when I told her last year. She even did a test and had quite a few ASD tendencies (so she is probably where I got it from).  Her reply was "I don't want to have a label".

    I am quite a bit further up the spectrum than my mum  but I don't have many of the social/situational anxiety problems that many with ASD have, so most of the time I will seem "normal".  However, I am not going to deny what I am or effectively make my life a total mask and be in denial.  Now I know why I am like I am, it is a comfort in many ways and should make life easier.

    I haven't told many people but there is definitely a stereotype in most peoples heads about what ASD means, however with the exception of my mother, everyone I have told has been more fascinated by the subject and very understanding but I will be very careful who I tell from now on.

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  • My mum was a bit like this when I told her last year. She even did a test and had quite a few ASD tendencies (so she is probably where I got it from).  Her reply was "I don't want to have a label".

    I am quite a bit further up the spectrum than my mum  but I don't have many of the social/situational anxiety problems that many with ASD have, so most of the time I will seem "normal".  However, I am not going to deny what I am or effectively make my life a total mask and be in denial.  Now I know why I am like I am, it is a comfort in many ways and should make life easier.

    I haven't told many people but there is definitely a stereotype in most peoples heads about what ASD means, however with the exception of my mother, everyone I have told has been more fascinated by the subject and very understanding but I will be very careful who I tell from now on.

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