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Hi I am new here and I’m not sure if this is the right place for advice but if not if somebody could point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it please. 


My 5 year old son was diagnosed with ASD last year he is non verbal so communication is very hard (we are currently trying picture cards) 

He will not wear any clothes around the house no matter how many times I put them on him even just pjs he will take them off, but he will wear them if we are going somewhere. 

I have recently noticed that when we go out he will pull his trouser legs up to his thighs and will not let me pull them back down and with the cold weather this has been concerning me. He will not have a blanket or cosey toes over him on the pram either so I’m worried about how cold his legs are getting. If I try to pull them down he has a meltdown and pulls them straight back up. Could anybody please help me understand why he does this and if there is anything I could do to stop this as we have been avoiding going out due it being so cold as are worried about him, but I also have another child and he wants to go out so it’s effecting him also and I’m just a mum trying to make both my boys happy so any help would be very much appreciated please.

Thank you in advance x

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  • Yes, all H's comments are very sensible. And this is all going to be rooted in his sensory needs, either colour, texture or temperature or pressure. 

    As a kid my mother struggled to get me to wear a coat outdoors. My coat was a nasty, bulky constraining thing which felt corse, made me overly hot and had buttons, which made me feel nauseous. I would later wear a duffel coat if it was two sizes too big 'cos it was lined with something softer and had toggles.

    And besides, I was never, ever cold.

    Of course, you worry about your child getting cold, but he may not genuinely be feeling the cold. One option might be just let him wear shorts if he wants. After all, as a society we did used to send little boys to school in shorts in January because trousers were for adult men.

    I guess the other thing you could do is experiment with different fabric samples at home to see which textures he likes and which annoy him, then get clothing made of the ones he likes. 

    There are a few companies out there now designing clothes for people, especially kids, on the Spectrum; super soft seams, no tags, pure cotton etc. You might have found some of these already. But if not, Born Anxious is one. I love their T-shirts.

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  • Yes, all H's comments are very sensible. And this is all going to be rooted in his sensory needs, either colour, texture or temperature or pressure. 

    As a kid my mother struggled to get me to wear a coat outdoors. My coat was a nasty, bulky constraining thing which felt corse, made me overly hot and had buttons, which made me feel nauseous. I would later wear a duffel coat if it was two sizes too big 'cos it was lined with something softer and had toggles.

    And besides, I was never, ever cold.

    Of course, you worry about your child getting cold, but he may not genuinely be feeling the cold. One option might be just let him wear shorts if he wants. After all, as a society we did used to send little boys to school in shorts in January because trousers were for adult men.

    I guess the other thing you could do is experiment with different fabric samples at home to see which textures he likes and which annoy him, then get clothing made of the ones he likes. 

    There are a few companies out there now designing clothes for people, especially kids, on the Spectrum; super soft seams, no tags, pure cotton etc. You might have found some of these already. But if not, Born Anxious is one. I love their T-shirts.

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