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Impulsive and regret

MrsG

Hi, I'm not sure if this is just me but I seem to be too impulsive when making financial decisions.  I make bad judgements when it comes to over-spending and I'm just wondering if there are other people who do similar.  It's almost like I think like a child and don't consider the consequences of my spending.  I'm 45 and married but my parents have had to bail me out financially so many times.  

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  • Firstly, autistic people tend to be impulsive

    Second, its a material world, we are bombarded with adverts to buy buy buy.

    Third, there is social and peer pressure to have things

    My parents have never had much money so I grew up used to not having much, so I learned to let go of urges to have things and still do now.

    I have urges to buy things, but I have to stop myself because then I would get the urge for something else.    I have built up a debt because in the past which I am having to repay though most of that was out of necessity, rather than impulse buys.   I have a budget that I stick to. 

    My parents wouldn't be able to bail me out, and wouldn't as a rule anyway, so I have got through to 49 having to manage by myself - and I'm OK with that.

    Impulses can be difficult to manage for autistic people, and the comfort/reward of buying something can also play a part in buying things.  Just question the things you get the impulse to buy - do you really need it? etc.  If you resist for a while, you can always treat yourself to an impulse buy that you really want and can afford.

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  • Firstly, autistic people tend to be impulsive

    Second, its a material world, we are bombarded with adverts to buy buy buy.

    Third, there is social and peer pressure to have things

    My parents have never had much money so I grew up used to not having much, so I learned to let go of urges to have things and still do now.

    I have urges to buy things, but I have to stop myself because then I would get the urge for something else.    I have built up a debt because in the past which I am having to repay though most of that was out of necessity, rather than impulse buys.   I have a budget that I stick to. 

    My parents wouldn't be able to bail me out, and wouldn't as a rule anyway, so I have got through to 49 having to manage by myself - and I'm OK with that.

    Impulses can be difficult to manage for autistic people, and the comfort/reward of buying something can also play a part in buying things.  Just question the things you get the impulse to buy - do you really need it? etc.  If you resist for a while, you can always treat yourself to an impulse buy that you really want and can afford.

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