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Getting a job

BabyPotato

I'm autistic.

Fairly high functioning but mentally the age of 12. 

I also have a LOT of health problems which affect my daily life. I had to drop out of school because I spent a lot of time in hospital and fell behind. I also kept fainting due to poor health etc. 

I recently got 2 jobs ( I haven't started yet but I got my offers) One is as a Healthcare assistant where I will have to work 3-4 days a week and the other one is as a medical laboratory assistant as a bank job. 

My mum isn't happy about me getting the jobs and I think she keeps getting angry at me because she said that I can't do them. I'm 18 now so I'm allowed to work there legally. The money is important becuase I need to save up money for university and also to help my mum get new windows because these ones are rotting. I also want to do something interesting and stimulating. I am obsessed with medical knowledge and these jobs will give me good exposure. 

I'm a bit afraid to do the jobs but I've already committed and it's better now than never at all. 

How can I make her not angry? 

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  • Who says your mental age is 12? You don't sound like it to me.

  • in reply to Shadweller

    Thank you :) I really really appreciate all of the advice and kind words. 

    What I meant to say but didn't say very well is I'm quite intelligent but I'm not good at looking after myself. I have a sister who is 10 years old and we act the same in terms of maturity and social ability. 

    A lot of healthcare professionals agree that I'm " a lot younger than my actual age" which is a very good way of putting it. Whilst I have a lot of knowledge and can write well, when people meet me I come across as much much younger and act it too. I'm okay with this, I guess it is what makes me me. It's particularly good because people use much more simple language and adapt how they speak. It makes me feel more at ease and I can understand them better. It also means that people tend to be more protective over me. This is great but maybe not in the workplace. 

    I also agree with the comment saying won't these jobs be difficult. When I was in paeds last year people thought I was 11. I'm afraid that I won't be taken seriously or I won't be mature enough to help especially in social situations. If there are rules and guidelines I can follow them but if there aren't I'll just end up acting like myself and I think that it'll be bad. 

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  • in reply to Shadweller

    Thank you :) I really really appreciate all of the advice and kind words. 

    What I meant to say but didn't say very well is I'm quite intelligent but I'm not good at looking after myself. I have a sister who is 10 years old and we act the same in terms of maturity and social ability. 

    A lot of healthcare professionals agree that I'm " a lot younger than my actual age" which is a very good way of putting it. Whilst I have a lot of knowledge and can write well, when people meet me I come across as much much younger and act it too. I'm okay with this, I guess it is what makes me me. It's particularly good because people use much more simple language and adapt how they speak. It makes me feel more at ease and I can understand them better. It also means that people tend to be more protective over me. This is great but maybe not in the workplace. 

    I also agree with the comment saying won't these jobs be difficult. When I was in paeds last year people thought I was 11. I'm afraid that I won't be taken seriously or I won't be mature enough to help especially in social situations. If there are rules and guidelines I can follow them but if there aren't I'll just end up acting like myself and I think that it'll be bad. 

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