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Flutters

Hey seeking advice regarding asd. Hope u can help me. 

Some back ground so your in the picture. I'm a mum of three two girls and a boy. There all in their teens now except for my youngest daughter. Kids our angry with me. My youngest asked me why I don't hug her and I couldn't give her an answer. I've never been able to hug or cuddle anybody I've always been that way I didn't hug my own mum god rest her soul. And my teens want to go out with their friends but I won't let them because of Covid so there mad at me for that. I don't think it's a crime to protect them I'm really worried about Covid it killed my mum and one of my work mates.

I keep the house as clean as possible and only do online shopping but the kids think I'm being unfair I'm just trying to keep them safe that's all.

I worked in a little shop but I'm jobless now it's closed down. Last year's lock down bought it to its knees unfortunately. I'm really upset bout that as id worked there for nearly ten years. I hate change so doing another job elsewhere is gone be hard, if I can find one that is.

Having problems with my other half also we're not as close any more and we never talk about anything. Not sure what I can do about it. I've never said a lot but it's worser now. I don't want to lose him but I feel the connection is breaking between us.

I've been washing my hands repeatedly witch is to do with my ocd apparently but since Covid ive used bleach and now my hands are very painful and red looks like blisters but I can't stop I don't want to get ill.

So finding life a bit tasking at the moment. I'm not a bad person I just want to keep everyone safe and well.

My daughter the older one said she thinks I should see a doctor but the doctor I always liked has left three years back and I don't do well meeting new people so am afraid to see any new ones. Also I don't see the point, doctors make sick people better don't they and I'm not sick.

Any advice would be helpful :)

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  • Hi Flutters,

    I'm sorry to hear your having so many issues just now.  It strikes me that there are parts of what you are saying that other people will just have to understand - like the hugs.  If you don't like hugs, you don't like hugs and you shouldn't have to do it if you don't want.  I would explain to your kids why though and make sure they understand you love them even if you can't express it that way.  Kids do need hugs though, I hope they get them from other people.

    There are other parts of this where you might have to adjust, hard as it is to do that.  I totally understand the worry about COVID.  I am very, very cautious too and going out to crowded spaces, technically permissible or not, is not something I will be doing for a very long time yet.  But, now we have the vaccines, life must start edging toward normality because people have needs that can't be met closed up indoors.  And I can imagine your kids might feel isolated, bored, cooped up and frustrated.  If they are too isolated for too long, that too will start to damage them in other ways.  No, I don't think a disco for them would be good right now either, but a game of footie or whatever in the outdoors with a few mates is something they NEED.

    What I am worried about - and I think your daughter is right - is that your hand washing will be damaging your skin and it is indicating that you have a level of anxiety that you need some support with sooner rather than later.  I have huge problems talking to doctors too and it is very difficult for me when they change, so I get that's hard, but you clearly do need to see one.  If face to face is too much, can you write them a letter?  If it's any comfort, they aren't doing much by way of face to face appointments anyway and will probably begin by speaking to you on the phone.

    Good luck

  • in reply to Dawn

    I can only echo what Dawn says here and hop you get some help

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