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Just Diagnosed

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So I'm 27 yrs old and for pretty much all my life I knew I was different and that something wasn't right with me. I've never been close with my family. I hated being hugged by my mum and sisters. I'm sensitive to light, noise and touch. I can't wear gloves because of the material of them. I hate change and I like the same foods. I'm no good at socialising. So I've just been diagnosed with Autism and though that's given me an explanation as to why I'm like this I just feel numb now and lost. What happens next? I don't want to be like this forever. Is there a way to get over this? I've no kids no job and no boyfriend. I've had relationships in the past but I was either used or told that I had no feelings and was just cold. I can't help being this way I'd change if I could. The diagnosis has answered questions but now I feel lost and don't know what to do. You guys got any advice?

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  • It may not feel like something positive right now, but congratulations on your diagnosis. 

    Course we're autistic and we can never NOT be autistic, whether we like it or not. Living in misery because of your autism is not, however, something you have to put up with.

    You know now. Hurrah! With a bit of luck, once you've had a chance to digest this, you might find that knowledge is empowering as you learn work arounds, alternative strategies to do what you want in life, decide where you want to adapt to the NT world, where you want to demand it adapt to you, or just avoid it altogether. Would you feel happier with a boy friend also on the Spectrum, for instance? Also, you need time to identify your "autistic superpower" and how you want to use it; autism comes with strengths too you know :-)

    It's entirely understandable that you feel a bit lost right now. Sadly, there are very few NHS or social care provisions for us, but Mind and some other organisations offer courses for the newly diagnosed covering a lot of useful stuff, like anxiety management. Your GP might be able to refer you or you might be able to self refer. 

    My assessor recommended 'Odd Girl Out' for my reading list. There are lot of enjoyable and inspiring auto-bios out there by adults diagnosed late. You might get a lot out of reading some. 'Autism in Heels' is another.

    Meanwhile, why not take bit of time out, list your problems and questions, then throw them out at us one at a time. Someone will identify with it and have something to offer.

    Welcome to the club and good luck.

  • in reply to Dawn
    Dawn said:
    Meanwhile, why not take bit of time out, list your problems and questions, then throw them out at us one at a time. Someone will identify with it and have something to offer.

    good tip

    that's how this forum operates more or less :P

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