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Autistic parent? Please help

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I'm 35 years old. My mother is nearly 70. The last few years I've started to suspect she might be autistic. Most places online seem to offer support to parents of children with autism but what about info/ support for those whose parents are autistic? Does anyone know of any books or other info to read?

I've spent my whole life looking after my mum. Her marriage didn't work. She has no friends. I'm the only one she has. It's too much sometimes. I have a baby now and I'm exhausted and finding it even more difficult to interact with her. She just can't see my point of view on anything. Won't meet me half way for anything. I'm struggling more than ever to be understanding with her. Is there anyone else out there who has grown up supporting an autistic parent? It would just be so good to talk to someone who has. None of my friends have ever been able to relate to the experience I've had growing up with my mum. 

Thank you in advance. 

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  • Hi,

    Just here to say that Catlover has given you the most wonderful response! Please understand your mother and accept her for who she is.

    I would also look into the ‘Double Empathy Problem’, a social theory which affirms that - being of different neurotypes - not only does your mother have a difficulty understanding (and therefore compromising with) you, but you also understanding *her*.

    At the end of the day it’s not an autistic problem per say - autistic people are just the minority and therefore the ones standing out.

    All the best. 

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  • Hi,

    Just here to say that Catlover has given you the most wonderful response! Please understand your mother and accept her for who she is.

    I would also look into the ‘Double Empathy Problem’, a social theory which affirms that - being of different neurotypes - not only does your mother have a difficulty understanding (and therefore compromising with) you, but you also understanding *her*.

    At the end of the day it’s not an autistic problem per say - autistic people are just the minority and therefore the ones standing out.

    All the best. 

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