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Autistic parent? Please help

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I'm 35 years old. My mother is nearly 70. The last few years I've started to suspect she might be autistic. Most places online seem to offer support to parents of children with autism but what about info/ support for those whose parents are autistic? Does anyone know of any books or other info to read?

I've spent my whole life looking after my mum. Her marriage didn't work. She has no friends. I'm the only one she has. It's too much sometimes. I have a baby now and I'm exhausted and finding it even more difficult to interact with her. She just can't see my point of view on anything. Won't meet me half way for anything. I'm struggling more than ever to be understanding with her. Is there anyone else out there who has grown up supporting an autistic parent? It would just be so good to talk to someone who has. None of my friends have ever been able to relate to the experience I've had growing up with my mum. 

Thank you in advance. 

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  • Hi.  I can't give any advice on having to care for an autistic parent as not had to do that, and don't know of any books, but thought I would just suggest getting a social services assessment.  If she is autistic then you probably won't be able to reason with her, autistic people tend to be rigid and inflexible, you may have to accept her as she is.  You need to be able to cope, if you have a baby as well, so its best to get help/support.

    Hopefully someone here might be able to relate, but another thing to try is to reach out to other carers on forums or twitter/facebook etc. 

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  • Hi.  I can't give any advice on having to care for an autistic parent as not had to do that, and don't know of any books, but thought I would just suggest getting a social services assessment.  If she is autistic then you probably won't be able to reason with her, autistic people tend to be rigid and inflexible, you may have to accept her as she is.  You need to be able to cope, if you have a baby as well, so its best to get help/support.

    Hopefully someone here might be able to relate, but another thing to try is to reach out to other carers on forums or twitter/facebook etc. 

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