Reading people and romantic relationships

I believe in the distant past, I probably did have a fairly good notion of who I was interested in romantically; and I also had a fairly good notion that most others were not particularly interested in me romantically. I eventually 'married' someone; but our relationship tends to be rather more practically-orientated than romantically-minded. After that 'marriage', I did experience one person who claimed to have fallen in love with me, but it was not at all reciprocal, in my case; perhaps because I really could see that it would have been a highly incompatible relationship, and have been extremely impractical within my existing 'convenient' relationship. In any case, I rather defy almost anyone here to really begin to understand romance. Perhaps at least part of the romance is in some of the practicalities, for instance.

I'm a bit too old to 'fall' in love now. However, that doesn't mean to say that physical and even emotional attachment isn't possible; it's just not at all practical in most cases. I'm not actually completely against so-called 'open' relationships. I still feel like I'm about twenty years old. But after decades of mutual disinterest and noticing the impracticalities of it all, I have probably already inactivated the romance option.

I would suggest that at least some of us are actually fairly good at 'reading'. but that we are so often 'misread', that we can no longer be bothered with heavy romance. I'd probably be more interested in just having a bit more 'fun' these days. I suppose some people might call that a mid-life crisis, but I also suppose that it doesn't really have to be that way. I also suppose I'll just continue to see what comes my way; as has always been the (practical) case. I won't go out of my way to make it happen. And it almost certainly won't happen; that's my experience so far. But I also won't do anything to avoid it happening.

I believe in the distant past, I probably did have a fairly good notion of who I was interested in romantically; and I also had a fairly good notion that most others were not particularly interested in me romantically. I eventually 'married' someone; but our relationship tends to be rather more practically-orientated than romantically-minded. After that 'marriage', I did experience one person who claimed to have fallen in love with me, but it was not at all reciprocal, in my case; perhaps because I really could see that it would have been a highly incompatible relationship, and have been extremely impractical within my existing 'convenient' relationship. In any case, I rather defy almost anyone here to really begin to understand romance. Perhaps at least part of the romance is in some of the practicalities, for instance.

I'm a bit too old to 'fall' in love now. However, that doesn't mean to say that physical and even emotional attachment isn't possible; it's just not at all practical in most cases. I'm not actually completely against so-called 'open' relationships. I still feel like I'm about twenty years old. But after decades of mutual disinterest and noticing the impracticalities of it all, I have probably already inactivated the romance option.

I would suggest that at least some of us are actually fairly good at 'reading'. but that we are so often 'misread', that we can no longer be bothered with heavy romance. I'd probably be more interested in just having a bit more 'fun' these days. I suppose some people might call that a mid-life crisis, but I also suppose that it doesn't really have to be that way. I also suppose I'll just continue to see what comes my way; as has always been the (practical) case. I won't go out of my way to make it happen. And it almost certainly won't happen; that's my experience so far. But I also won't do anything to avoid it happening.