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Ladybird

Maybe I’ll describe the situation first.

I had to drive somewhere and I was prepared (street view, sat nav, I knew where to park and where the alternative car park is, had my debit card and some money for the car park machine).

I drove, I parked the car and then I couldn’t pay because the machine didn’t want to accept my card. The screen was scratched, I couldn’t read it. And I freaked out. I didn’t know what to do, I kept pacing between my car and the machine with tears in my eyes.

Eventually I did calm down and managed to pay but I realised that situation like that are the reason I’m often scared to venture to the world, hiding in my own house. Because I’m scared that I might freak out and I might not know what to do and nobody will help me and I will be stuck and distressed and everyone will look at me but nobody will do anything, apart from laughing.

So, what do you do in situations like that? How do you help yourself? I don’t want to spend the rest of my life hiding and avoiding things but I’m afraid I might freak out in public. And what should I do if I do?

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  • The feelings of helplessness is a fear many people have, including myself. I guess there's gps which makes driving a lot easier now, but I'm still afraid to drive since I'm afraid of getting lost. 

    I mean if I'm in distress and I see someone, I've learned to explain my situation and what they could help me with, like for instance "Excuse me, I can't really read what's on this screen, can you make out what it says? Wait, let me just try to put in my card again, and then you can try to read it." For most people, when given a simple task, they'll be willing to help. As long as you're calm it makes them calm. I've learned that if I appear distressed and panicked, it makes them automatically scared of me, and then they are too afraid to help me. 

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  • The feelings of helplessness is a fear many people have, including myself. I guess there's gps which makes driving a lot easier now, but I'm still afraid to drive since I'm afraid of getting lost. 

    I mean if I'm in distress and I see someone, I've learned to explain my situation and what they could help me with, like for instance "Excuse me, I can't really read what's on this screen, can you make out what it says? Wait, let me just try to put in my card again, and then you can try to read it." For most people, when given a simple task, they'll be willing to help. As long as you're calm it makes them calm. I've learned that if I appear distressed and panicked, it makes them automatically scared of me, and then they are too afraid to help me. 

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