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Mum doesn't think I am highly sensitive

Pathetique

Mum doesn't think I am a highly sensitive person when really I am. I display most signs of a highly sensitive person, including being sensitive to light. I wear sunglasses indoors because it is too light and if I didn't wear sunglasses, my eyes go a little bit watery. Mum is causing me problems. She said 'I don't think you're a highly sensitive person'. I said 'Why not?'. She didn't even give me a reason because she didn't have any.

I had a discussion about my light sensitivity to her today explaining it, and she doesn't seem to understand me Mum says  'You read it on computer and say you're going to do that' when I really am interested in my high sensitivity as a trait. I show signs of a highly sensitive person, including sensitivity to noise, having routines in the day, going to quiet room at Youth Club so I can be alone and being moved to beauty.

I am volunteering at a horse riding place soon, and Mum said I can't wear sunglasses in the place when I think I need to because my eyes will water.

Can you help me please?

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  • It’s not helpful being dismissed and disregarded. Does anyone else in your family appear to have these issues? A grandparent perhaps? 

    I’m not sure if I understand everything you’re trying to express though. Have you tried swapping your bedroom lights for incandescent or halogen? Salt lamps also tend to break up LED wavelength well, too. My eyes go blurry under LEDs, even low light ones and my laptop. 

    if you’re old enough I would simply book an appointment at an optician. A medical note can help. But I did spend growing up being dismissive and disregarded by my mum. It’s emotionally painful- this is the one person who is supposed to empathise with us and help us and instead, just acts cold.  Eventually I had withdrawn to where then she would accuse me of being apathetic. There was no winning! Medical backing for many issues was such a relief. There was than an authority on a matter who she would respect. 

    I would also arrange to meet up before you start work and politely let them know about your need to wear Protective Eye Wear (use this exact phrase). Also make sure to express your excitement or “happiness” regarding the job AND your new employers. Most Neuotypical individuals will be accommodating to others needs if we make a conscious effort in out words to always make them “Feel” like good or respected or generous humans.  

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Hello. I think I am the only one in my family who is sensitive. I think that I will let the people who I will work for know I am sensitive to light and I will mention my need to wear Protective Eye Wear to them. Thank you very much for your reply.

  • in reply to Pathetique

    Perhaps to note, if you pop into an opticians and they can help, perhaps there will be even better protective eye wear they can help you acquire. If sunglasses easily slip off, for example. or maybe there are fantastic goggles for this sort of thing with various filtered tints. Just a thought!

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