I am definitely an Autist. No question about it whatsover in my mind, and I've got the score to prove it.
I have definitely experienced more than my share of the above three nasty things in my life as a recipient.
In fact so much so, in my early life, that avoiding all three has been my most pressing need, once I passed through the phase of "joining in" myself.
Accordingly I've studied it, motivated by the most powerful instructor of all, survival. Yet it always takes me by surprise when it erupts into my life.
I guess, I've not yet studied it enough, nor utterly eliminated from my own inner self either..
Starting from that basis, I will further reveal that my partner is german, and I've spent a lot of time as me observing the german people in thir natural habitat.
Apparently, simply thinking of German people living in their pown country as a separate group from my own and worthy of observation and deduction about how and why they do things sometimes the same and sometimes differently makes me a Racist. Thinking about differences between people and how it can make them act differently makes me a racist, and all sorts of normally very nice and balanced peope (Like my G/F as a perfect example) will start screamng at me! (And "othering", "demonising", & "hating me" ALL AT ONCE! Every time!!)
I'm just trying to think my way out of a paper bag...