Recent diagnosis

There are no "treatments" at the moment, however as many of the people here show there is plenty of opportunity to find better management techniques, at some point there may even be some kind of program but the struggle will be that no technique suits everyone. 

I guess its a lot of introspection a bit of reading round and when you know a specific issue ask what other people do. 

Personally I use a lot of scripting and rehearsal, spans of control, effectively I made the world around me safe.

Avoid the "spectrum" talk it lets people decide how much he's effected, much better to look at the traits and deal with them separately.

The other thing of course is being NT can be just as debilitating in a world set up around autistic traits, so you are going to have to accept that in making things easier for him you may make things more difficult for yourself. (hence the allegory of the longspoons)     

It's a legal meme (I hope I'm using the word right, I don't fully understand it yet) that a good judgement leaves both parties slightly unhappy... In the world of normie/sperg relations that's about the best result you can get.

Although that result will hurt you slightly less, because normies seem to be good at ignoring constant minor irritations, (like govenrment that only exists to lie to you and take your money to kill foreigners abroad whislt dismantling everyting that was good about home, etc. that sort of thing. ) O>k. I used a hyperbolic example, but they really DO seem very good at the "eyes wide shut" thing from where I sit.

I can tell you, if you can find strategies that work for you to avoid getting irate with your guy, over the bloody annoying things he does, (Because he won't be able to change no matter how he loves you, and if getting love and acceptance back depends on him "just being a bit more xxxxx" he may make the same decison that I have in the past.

I got sick of having impossible demands extended as the "price" of love, (or even a "quiet life"), and withdrew into my own world. So many times, too...

Equally, your guy now has some tools too (starting with the "flashlight of insight") as people have been pointing in in the "what's good about Autism" thread elsewhere.

I'm VERY optimistic that us Autists can work together using the awesome power of individuals united in a common purpose, to make this work a little more truthful and nice to live in. Over and over again, in the posts I read is a call for "Normies to say what they actually mean" which reveals what to me appears an across the board autism trait an insistance on the reality in which we are all immersed  being "Authentic & verifiable". 

"Authentic and verifiable" LOL they just don't get how obvious it is when things don't add up and then how irritating it is until you can verify the "other truth".

"Authentic and verifiable" LOL they just don't get how obvious it is when things don't add up and then how irritating it is until you can verify the "other truth".

It's a battle that only unconditional love can win, I feel.