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NAS74967

Good evening.

Its nice to finally be here, I have been with my husband for near on 10 years and I have recognised behaviours within him amongst that time that really concerned me. We waited on a long list for a diagnosis through the NHS which seemed that is was never ending. I decided I could not let him continue to suffer like this and he needed a private diagnostic as soon as possible. We achieved this and recently the results came back that he was on the spectrum more specifically someone who if they still has different catergories has "Aspergers".

I need help what to do next? I cannot afford as much as I would love to provide him with treatment privately. Is there any help that I can get for him? Someone to talk to on a 1-1 basis. Support chats online? I just would like to know where to begin on this journey?

We are based in Norfolk if anyone knows of anything local?

With kind regards.

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  • First the bad news: As my psychiatrist who diagnosed me at the age of 59 last year said: "There is no treatment".

    It took me quite a while to get my head round the idea that I & my poor g/f are stuck with my limitations for the rest of my/her days... I feel guilty that I kinda sold her a me that was partly or mostly "mask"

    BUT there's the good news. We instantly stooped having a number of stupid arguments. A combination of her realising I can't help certain failures combined with my efforts to reduce or apologise for those failures has helped our relationship enormously.

    For you, your life with him will get instantly and progressively easier, if you want to stay with him, and for him, life will start to make a bit more sense, no matter how bad ones life appeared before diagnoosis, realising that you've got this far with one hand tied behind your back and a bllndfold on, yoru future HAS to look more rosy becuse you've lost the metaphorical blindfold.

    I promise you, an Autist can be exactly the right person to have around in a crisis, or when things go "wibbly wobbly", but we are often very much the wrong person to vent mindlessly at, posing problem after problem, not expecting (or even denying the possibilty of) a solution.  

    We don't exactly lack empathy across the board, (at least I don't!) but you don't often find it where you'd expect it. And he's probably very loyal and committed in his actions, traits which i might suggest seem to not be so often present in the normie community...

    Hope that helps, with a bit of luck, you'll get some quality answers too, there are some wonderful people on this board, there really are!

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  • First the bad news: As my psychiatrist who diagnosed me at the age of 59 last year said: "There is no treatment".

    It took me quite a while to get my head round the idea that I & my poor g/f are stuck with my limitations for the rest of my/her days... I feel guilty that I kinda sold her a me that was partly or mostly "mask"

    BUT there's the good news. We instantly stooped having a number of stupid arguments. A combination of her realising I can't help certain failures combined with my efforts to reduce or apologise for those failures has helped our relationship enormously.

    For you, your life with him will get instantly and progressively easier, if you want to stay with him, and for him, life will start to make a bit more sense, no matter how bad ones life appeared before diagnoosis, realising that you've got this far with one hand tied behind your back and a bllndfold on, yoru future HAS to look more rosy becuse you've lost the metaphorical blindfold.

    I promise you, an Autist can be exactly the right person to have around in a crisis, or when things go "wibbly wobbly", but we are often very much the wrong person to vent mindlessly at, posing problem after problem, not expecting (or even denying the possibilty of) a solution.  

    We don't exactly lack empathy across the board, (at least I don't!) but you don't often find it where you'd expect it. And he's probably very loyal and committed in his actions, traits which i might suggest seem to not be so often present in the normie community...

    Hope that helps, with a bit of luck, you'll get some quality answers too, there are some wonderful people on this board, there really are!

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