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Constructive euphemisms?

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The usual deal is, of course, that you try to tell someone what you have recently discovered for yourself , and you get back the standard, " We're all a bit  *****". I personally can't think of a single case when it has really helped me for someone to say that; except perhaps when admitting it to myself or the diagnostician/assessor. So how could we phrase it some other way to disarm that reaction before it even begins to happen. I've taken, online, to just calling myself ''a bit slow''; as in 'Well, you know me, I've always been a bit slow off the mark". That does have a certain grain of truth in it, in my case; and I just sort of figure that their reaction is either then going to be something like, 'Well, I suppose I have might just have similar issues myself", or they are going to clam up completely, to avoid feeling uncomfortable.

You know, when you are young, nearly everyone one believes it is their god-given right to be completely and devastating candid about what they think YOUR problem is; while the exact same people when older will basically backpedal on all the scorn they offered you in your younger years. In their rush to be the quickest off the mark in the monetarist olympics of life, I can't really imagine anyone really wanting to say, "Well, we are all a bit slow sometimes''. And yet in my case, there is a grain of truth in it.

I've also been trying out 'neural damage'; as I can see how it might well have happened as a result of childhood sickness; and I have no real compunction about saying this about myself; why worry yourself about those fairly neutral words when the damage was obviously done decades ago. And I doubt whether too many people would then wish to contest such a blunt statement by citing a few of their own minor neurological issues.

But how about other 'alt' ways to relabel your life as something just a little bit different from the much maligned ASD/Asperger's thing? I'm just wondering if someone here might be able to come up with some real scorchers, to hex the  "We're all a bit  *****" bs; something that will make the listener go away for a while and ponder why you didn't come straight out with some stereotyped label that they could instantly and easily be dismissive of. I look forward to perhaps trying a few of your suggestions out; almost anything would be better that the complete silence that usually follows  "We're all a bit  *****".

But seriously, I can see myself enjoying this. I have found the ''a bit slow'' label a fairly constructive one, over the decades. It is something that can be later elaborated on, at length; or it can get people wondering why you didn't immediately use one of the more current 'labels'.

But I also wouldn't be too surprised if some folk think this is a dreadful idea. I'd still like to hear why! :-) If so, how else could one disarm the usual hackneyed NT response? I think I'm looking more for cheerful strategies, rather than sullen upheaval.

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  • The term Aspergers is suddenly Useful in that NT individuals don't quite know what to do with it. For some reason it's acquired such strange specifications that seem particularly odd, Neurotypicals can't identify. Where as Spectrum becomes Spectrummy, Autistic = we're all a little... it's like Virtue Signalling with Imposter Syndrome or some other nonsense construct NTs use to play a redundant echo chamber of we-are-one-but-I'm-attempting-micro-domination. 

    I've found it useful to see brain scans and understand the neurological side of Autism. If the brain is making hyper calculations and utilising different lobes for reasoning rather than the typical use of the one for language and feelings, then most likely it might take a little longer to output. I use the analogy of my brain being like a messy library often and my somewhat difficult attempts at accessing. Or describing the difference between NT and Autistic/ADHD wiring like attempting to exit an Escape Room. The NT has one obstacle which they just walk around. But for the other, it's like a new puzzle needs solving and removing with every step. 

    I really think there's a noticeable difference when attempting to use social constructs. I've opted to simply state when NTs are being nebulous or odd. The problem is, most can't usually understand just how encoded they are: Sublimated... Oedipalised. 

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  • The term Aspergers is suddenly Useful in that NT individuals don't quite know what to do with it. For some reason it's acquired such strange specifications that seem particularly odd, Neurotypicals can't identify. Where as Spectrum becomes Spectrummy, Autistic = we're all a little... it's like Virtue Signalling with Imposter Syndrome or some other nonsense construct NTs use to play a redundant echo chamber of we-are-one-but-I'm-attempting-micro-domination. 

    I've found it useful to see brain scans and understand the neurological side of Autism. If the brain is making hyper calculations and utilising different lobes for reasoning rather than the typical use of the one for language and feelings, then most likely it might take a little longer to output. I use the analogy of my brain being like a messy library often and my somewhat difficult attempts at accessing. Or describing the difference between NT and Autistic/ADHD wiring like attempting to exit an Escape Room. The NT has one obstacle which they just walk around. But for the other, it's like a new puzzle needs solving and removing with every step. 

    I really think there's a noticeable difference when attempting to use social constructs. I've opted to simply state when NTs are being nebulous or odd. The problem is, most can't usually understand just how encoded they are: Sublimated... Oedipalised. 

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Interesting comments there, JFG.

    Well, I suppose there could be some mileage then in going along with some of the encoding that 'they' do actually have a quite a grip on. They should be able to figure out stuff like 'different wiring' and 'operating on LINUX rather than WINDOWS'.

    I would prefer to refrain from psycho-analytical labeling for NTs. I see myself more as a somewhat botched & bungled 'engineer' type, than a follower of Freudian mythology. (But then, when you've seen one ..... , you've seen just one.) I definitely don't expect my bodged brand of reasoning and my choice of euphemisms to suit anyone else here. I can enjoy other people's choice of words, without any particular desire to say it quite the same way for myself.

    A more neurological approach would suit me fine. I look forward to a few brain scans in my old age. But I will refrain from all the current comment on Imposter Syndrome. It certainly rings a few bells in my imagination, but I'm also getting a bit fed up with it cropping up too often in the tabloids.