I try to be myself to my family... but they don't understand

Hello all,

I am a highly sensitive person and I like taking my time getting to places. That's how I like it.

Today, I left to go to my youth club, and we got out of the car to walk to Sainsbury's. Mum had crossed the road and got to the other side, and I looked left and right whilst taking my time. Mum scolded me saying 'Hurry up, I'm not doing this next week'. I said 'no' because I know that I need to stop hiding my sensitivity and show who I really am to people and I know it is a trait that I have - a superpower. I am fed up of hiding who I really am to people. Mum raced off and said 'hurry up' all the time until we got back to the car. I said 'No, I like to take my time' out loud in Sainsbury's because I feel misunderstood and angry about people not understanding me. I brought my phone just in case I got lost and I can contact Mum. When we got in the car Mum said 'stop walking like you just pooed yourself', 'you're reading rubbish' and 'it makes no sense'. We had argued for a minute. I like taking my time to get to places and I feel less tired when I take it easy too. When I arrived at Youth Club, the leader said 'Are you alright'. I said 'Yes'.

I tried to make Mum understand who I am, but she won't. It just makes me feel misunderstood. I try to be myself. Mum won't accept me for who I am.

Can you help me with what to say to Mum please so that I don't feel misunderstood please?

Thanks,

Parents
  • I'm the opposite. I want to hurry up everything, while my family are all 'Take your time'. Hearing those words put me under MORE pressure. In my family, you weren't allowed to make mistakes; and, therefore, I NEVER grew up.

    Have you ever talked to your mum? Or even ask her why she's in a hurry? Is she TV-obsessed?

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  • I'm the opposite. I want to hurry up everything, while my family are all 'Take your time'. Hearing those words put me under MORE pressure. In my family, you weren't allowed to make mistakes; and, therefore, I NEVER grew up.

    Have you ever talked to your mum? Or even ask her why she's in a hurry? Is she TV-obsessed?

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