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I try to be myself to my family... but they don't understand

Pathetique

Hello all,

I am a highly sensitive person and I like taking my time getting to places. That's how I like it.

Today, I left to go to my youth club, and we got out of the car to walk to Sainsbury's. Mum had crossed the road and got to the other side, and I looked left and right whilst taking my time. Mum scolded me saying 'Hurry up, I'm not doing this next week'. I said 'no' because I know that I need to stop hiding my sensitivity and show who I really am to people and I know it is a trait that I have - a superpower. I am fed up of hiding who I really am to people. Mum raced off and said 'hurry up' all the time until we got back to the car. I said 'No, I like to take my time' out loud in Sainsbury's because I feel misunderstood and angry about people not understanding me. I brought my phone just in case I got lost and I can contact Mum. When we got in the car Mum said 'stop walking like you just pooed yourself', 'you're reading rubbish' and 'it makes no sense'. We had argued for a minute. I like taking my time to get to places and I feel less tired when I take it easy too. When I arrived at Youth Club, the leader said 'Are you alright'. I said 'Yes'.

I tried to make Mum understand who I am, but she won't. It just makes me feel misunderstood. I try to be myself. Mum won't accept me for who I am.

Can you help me with what to say to Mum please so that I don't feel misunderstood please?

Thanks,

Parents

  • I understand that you would like your parents to accept you for who you are.

    If someone is misunderstanding or talking down to me, I'll just keep repeating myself. So for instance, she puts you down, so you say "I like taking my time," she says "You're reading rubbish" and you say again "I like taking my time" she says "it makes no sense," and you repeat "I like taking my time." This stubborness makes it so you are clear about what you want, and whatever they say to put you down does not sway you. And your message is very simple that it cannot be misunderstood. 

    However, if you're trying to be yourself and it ends up angering and making them treat you worse, and they don't respect you and only laugh at you and put you down, then these are not the type of people you want acceptance from, because they have not taught you how to accept yourself, so that is why you are always looking for acceptance from them.

    But you know deep down that you have to do the things that makes you happy, so you should trust that, even if others will not understand. 

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  • I understand that you would like your parents to accept you for who you are.

    If someone is misunderstanding or talking down to me, I'll just keep repeating myself. So for instance, she puts you down, so you say "I like taking my time," she says "You're reading rubbish" and you say again "I like taking my time" she says "it makes no sense," and you repeat "I like taking my time." This stubborness makes it so you are clear about what you want, and whatever they say to put you down does not sway you. And your message is very simple that it cannot be misunderstood. 

    However, if you're trying to be yourself and it ends up angering and making them treat you worse, and they don't respect you and only laugh at you and put you down, then these are not the type of people you want acceptance from, because they have not taught you how to accept yourself, so that is why you are always looking for acceptance from them.

    But you know deep down that you have to do the things that makes you happy, so you should trust that, even if others will not understand. 

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