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I try to be myself to my family... but they don't understand

Pathetique

Hello all,

I am a highly sensitive person and I like taking my time getting to places. That's how I like it.

Today, I left to go to my youth club, and we got out of the car to walk to Sainsbury's. Mum had crossed the road and got to the other side, and I looked left and right whilst taking my time. Mum scolded me saying 'Hurry up, I'm not doing this next week'. I said 'no' because I know that I need to stop hiding my sensitivity and show who I really am to people and I know it is a trait that I have - a superpower. I am fed up of hiding who I really am to people. Mum raced off and said 'hurry up' all the time until we got back to the car. I said 'No, I like to take my time' out loud in Sainsbury's because I feel misunderstood and angry about people not understanding me. I brought my phone just in case I got lost and I can contact Mum. When we got in the car Mum said 'stop walking like you just pooed yourself', 'you're reading rubbish' and 'it makes no sense'. We had argued for a minute. I like taking my time to get to places and I feel less tired when I take it easy too. When I arrived at Youth Club, the leader said 'Are you alright'. I said 'Yes'.

I tried to make Mum understand who I am, but she won't. It just makes me feel misunderstood. I try to be myself. Mum won't accept me for who I am.

Can you help me with what to say to Mum please so that I don't feel misunderstood please?

Thanks,

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  • Were you supposed to be at the youth club by a particular time? Maybe you need to have a discussion and come to a compromise where she’ll need to allow a set extra amount of time to do things if you’re with her. Although if she has a lot of time dependent activities to do it may be difficult. I know time can sometimes be a difficult concept for neurodiverse people but unfortunately sometimes we are bound to it for appointments etc

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  • Were you supposed to be at the youth club by a particular time? Maybe you need to have a discussion and come to a compromise where she’ll need to allow a set extra amount of time to do things if you’re with her. Although if she has a lot of time dependent activities to do it may be difficult. I know time can sometimes be a difficult concept for neurodiverse people but unfortunately sometimes we are bound to it for appointments etc

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