• Replies 1 reply
  • Subscribers 81 subscribers
  • Views 592 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Help on Free flow

Wizza mouse

Hi everyone 

Iam trying my best to go with the flow of friendship relationship. But I find it very hard to Carrie on coping with things, at free flow

Has anyone ever set boundaries to try and make those areas happy and health part of your friendship, rather than things fall apart. 

Advice help people. Everyone been fantastic with help so far, it all very much appreciated. 

Thank you so very much everyone 

Thanks 

Lizzy 

Parents

  • I'm not entirely sure what it means to go with the flow for friendships and relationships, or how that would look like. Is there an example of these things somewhere? Otherwise, is "going with the flow" an expression for having fun? I don't really know. 

    I do know that if telling someone your boundaries makes a friendship or a relationship fall apart, then they were never going to respect your boundaries to begin with (and vice versa for if you can't agree with their boundaries, it's not going to work either) and it's probably better to know that sooner rather than later.

    I don't really have a list of boundaries to tell people, but I know that when disagreements happen (and they naturally occur in any friendship or relationship), that someone's boundaries are being crossed, so depending on how two people deal with it, can make the bond stronger, or can make it weaker. If each person respects each other and they try to amend the bond, then it grows stronger. But if one or both people continue to destroy each other, then the bond is eventually going to break. 

    In any friendship or relationship, if there's a majority of bad times (like 80% or more), and the bad outweighs the good, then that bond is not worth keeping, and causing more harm than good. 

Reply

  • I'm not entirely sure what it means to go with the flow for friendships and relationships, or how that would look like. Is there an example of these things somewhere? Otherwise, is "going with the flow" an expression for having fun? I don't really know. 

    I do know that if telling someone your boundaries makes a friendship or a relationship fall apart, then they were never going to respect your boundaries to begin with (and vice versa for if you can't agree with their boundaries, it's not going to work either) and it's probably better to know that sooner rather than later.

    I don't really have a list of boundaries to tell people, but I know that when disagreements happen (and they naturally occur in any friendship or relationship), that someone's boundaries are being crossed, so depending on how two people deal with it, can make the bond stronger, or can make it weaker. If each person respects each other and they try to amend the bond, then it grows stronger. But if one or both people continue to destroy each other, then the bond is eventually going to break. 

    In any friendship or relationship, if there's a majority of bad times (like 80% or more), and the bad outweighs the good, then that bond is not worth keeping, and causing more harm than good. 

Children
No Data