Feelings of frustration related to sexuality

Hello!. My name's Fede (I didn't know how to change my stupid nickname), but as you can see, I'm a man, age 28, from inner Buenos Aires, Argentina.

I resort to this website at the same time that I congratulate the United Kingdom government for having such a Society. Here in Argentina there are only groups of parents, nothing for the autistic adults.

I am here to ask for advice about my sexuality and whether anyone experienced it. I'm nearing my 29th birthday in Sept. and I have tremendous hindrance when socializing, and it has impeded me from developing a bond where to release sexual frustration.

I DO know that sex itself is not the most important part of life, but at 28, almost 29, it's taking a heavy toll. I am also part of the gay community, and I have not found another guy to whom I can explicitly ask to have sexuality with him, and mum has warned me that things don't work that way either, that I must build a confidence first before asking for intimacy, which makes me desperate.

I compare myself to other guys my age and it also drives me crazy. 

My specific question is: Is there any tool besides of those given to me by psychologist to deal with sexual frustration? I've started to do gym and it helps me lots, but in thought I am still "angry" regarding that. 

How was your experience as an autistic adult? 

Well, from Argentina, a huge hug to the National Autistic Society, this forum's members and everyone out there. I send you a hug and I love you all. 

PS: I'm not "materialistic". I want love instead of sex, but sometimes the sexual thoughts right now control my mind. 

Thank you for the understanding. 

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  • Hi, Fede. I think this is a common problem for a lot of people, but it's especially a problem for gay autistic men (according to my autism support worker), who have generally been stigmatised for their sexual attractions and then stigmatised with autism. It adds another layer of complexity to the problem.  I'm in my 40's and still have many sexual hangups, so I hope as a much younger man than me, you can find some support and have a more fulfilling love life. Fingers crossed.

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  • Hi, Fede. I think this is a common problem for a lot of people, but it's especially a problem for gay autistic men (according to my autism support worker), who have generally been stigmatised for their sexual attractions and then stigmatised with autism. It adds another layer of complexity to the problem.  I'm in my 40's and still have many sexual hangups, so I hope as a much younger man than me, you can find some support and have a more fulfilling love life. Fingers crossed.

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