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Asperger husband

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After many years married to my husband I am very depressed and constantly tired due to unresolved conflict. He hates confrontation and so we never really talk things through. It seems so sad to part after so long but I am struggling to cope. Anyone else in this dilemma?

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  • Confrontation might have a lot of eye contact, and being stared at could feel threatening for someone with aspergers. Also, thinking of what to say when put on the spot could be difficult for them too (I personally find that writing is easier as it allows time to think and process my thoughts). Otherwise I think that if I'm confronted out of the blue, I might just have a breakdown. But I don't know your husband's personality though, or how he reacts to things or copes with things, so I can't say that I'd know his thoughts for sure, because it's a spectrum. Anyways, do what you think is best for the sake of your happiness. If you tried absolutely everything and you're at your wit's end, maybe take a break from each other, and then decide if leaving him is for the best.

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  • Confrontation might have a lot of eye contact, and being stared at could feel threatening for someone with aspergers. Also, thinking of what to say when put on the spot could be difficult for them too (I personally find that writing is easier as it allows time to think and process my thoughts). Otherwise I think that if I'm confronted out of the blue, I might just have a breakdown. But I don't know your husband's personality though, or how he reacts to things or copes with things, so I can't say that I'd know his thoughts for sure, because it's a spectrum. Anyways, do what you think is best for the sake of your happiness. If you tried absolutely everything and you're at your wit's end, maybe take a break from each other, and then decide if leaving him is for the best.

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