Hiya,
My fiancé and I have long suspected that he may be on the spectrum and he went for an nhs assessment this week, however they did not diagnose him. I really don’t agree with the outcome and found some of their reasoning quite laughable- things like “he had good eye contact”, “has an imagination” etc.
I’m also aware that he can come across very neurotypical, and is good at masking. He frequently suffers from shutdowns, Is unable to explain or understand his feelings, has severe social anxiety, sometimes takes things literally and generally needs everything neat, organised and symmetrical, used to hit himself as a child (still gets the urge to do this). He’s also had problems with relationships ie never having a girlfriend or even dated until he was 25, superficial friendships and bullying at work, and autism runs in his family.
On the assessment report, I saw that he scored very highly for everything and if he’d have gone 1 point over in all scores he would’ve been diagnosed. Is a second opinion worth seeking out? Has anyone experienced something similar?
Thanks