Issues at Work

Need some advice please.  I've been working in the NHS for 20 plus years.  Amazingly I've kept the job despite struggling when trying to complete several things at once and have feelings of incompetence and inadequacy often.  Anxiety and stress have been a constant feature for me.    Originally I was employed as a medical secretary until they changed our job roles 10 years ago to include line management.  3 years ago they did a review and moved several staff to different departments.  I then had to line manage staff from 3 teams which I really struggle with.   There are difficult members of staff to line manage and I can't cope with it.  Also my colleague (who I job share with) undermines me.  I know she thinks I'm incompetent, I just can't cope with the stress some days and shut down.  I was upset the last time I was in and asked to finish half day.  I haven't slept or eaten well since.  Can I ask my employer for a transfer into another role?  I was only diagnosed with high functioning autism 3 years ago at 42 and told my boss 2 years ago.  I asked that none of the staff I line manage are made aware of it.  It's getting to the point where I just want to leave but I can't afford it. I also have 2 children at home who are autistic so don't need the added stress at work.  I don't know what to do at the moment.  I've contacted my union for advice and I'm waiting to hear back.  Not surprised to read that only 32% of autistic adults work. It's so hard!

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  • Hi, so sorry you're going through a tough time. It's really hard to be somewhere that is causing stress. And hard to know what to do as sometimes it is a case of " better the devil you know" yet there could also be better things out there. Money is always a barrier, we unfortunately need it to live.

    I've bern off work sick " not because of stress" and now the thought of returning is giving me anxiety. However I need the money. I've found what I would love to do, but it will take a lot of time and effort, with no guarantees. I wish the best and hope that things work out for you.

  • Sorry for the late reply.  I don't always get chance to go on.  I'm off with work related stress at the moment.  It seems to be a pattern for me i.e. stress/anxiety build up over time, then I blow.  I'm due to go back on Monday.  (sarcastic "Yippee, cant wait!")  Like you say,  we need the money so don't have much choice.  I'm looking at other jobs at the moment but will be hard to find one that pays the same and works around my children. Hey ho, we struggle on!  Thanks for your comment and best of luck in your search for a job you'll love.

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  • Sorry for the late reply.  I don't always get chance to go on.  I'm off with work related stress at the moment.  It seems to be a pattern for me i.e. stress/anxiety build up over time, then I blow.  I'm due to go back on Monday.  (sarcastic "Yippee, cant wait!")  Like you say,  we need the money so don't have much choice.  I'm looking at other jobs at the moment but will be hard to find one that pays the same and works around my children. Hey ho, we struggle on!  Thanks for your comment and best of luck in your search for a job you'll love.

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