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Issues at Work

Kingfisher

Need some advice please.  I've been working in the NHS for 20 plus years.  Amazingly I've kept the job despite struggling when trying to complete several things at once and have feelings of incompetence and inadequacy often.  Anxiety and stress have been a constant feature for me.    Originally I was employed as a medical secretary until they changed our job roles 10 years ago to include line management.  3 years ago they did a review and moved several staff to different departments.  I then had to line manage staff from 3 teams which I really struggle with.   There are difficult members of staff to line manage and I can't cope with it.  Also my colleague (who I job share with) undermines me.  I know she thinks I'm incompetent, I just can't cope with the stress some days and shut down.  I was upset the last time I was in and asked to finish half day.  I haven't slept or eaten well since.  Can I ask my employer for a transfer into another role?  I was only diagnosed with high functioning autism 3 years ago at 42 and told my boss 2 years ago.  I asked that none of the staff I line manage are made aware of it.  It's getting to the point where I just want to leave but I can't afford it. I also have 2 children at home who are autistic so don't need the added stress at work.  I don't know what to do at the moment.  I've contacted my union for advice and I'm waiting to hear back.  Not surprised to read that only 32% of autistic adults work. It's so hard!

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  • Hello NAS63927, I'm not sure if I'm going to be reiterating what others have said but I'm wondering if you've used the NHS's employee's counselling line to at least access some emotional support to help you through this or any of thier other well-being services for employees? 

    I totally understand you're difficulty with line managing people, I have not been in a management role but in my last job I was responsible for leading a project and getting others to carry out their roles within that was a constant battle, but with the typical autistic difficulties for me of building, maintaining and developing relationships as well as lacking in social skills and being totally clueless with 'office politics' it was doomed to fail in this regard and I ended up doing most of it myself, which in some ways was good because I knew it was getting done right but that was not the procedure for how things were to be done and that was exceptionally stressful to deal with.

    However, you are to be commended for getting as far as you have AND you also have two children, that to me, is impressive.

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  • Hello NAS63927, I'm not sure if I'm going to be reiterating what others have said but I'm wondering if you've used the NHS's employee's counselling line to at least access some emotional support to help you through this or any of thier other well-being services for employees? 

    I totally understand you're difficulty with line managing people, I have not been in a management role but in my last job I was responsible for leading a project and getting others to carry out their roles within that was a constant battle, but with the typical autistic difficulties for me of building, maintaining and developing relationships as well as lacking in social skills and being totally clueless with 'office politics' it was doomed to fail in this regard and I ended up doing most of it myself, which in some ways was good because I knew it was getting done right but that was not the procedure for how things were to be done and that was exceptionally stressful to deal with.

    However, you are to be commended for getting as far as you have AND you also have two children, that to me, is impressive.

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