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Issues at Work

Kingfisher

Need some advice please.  I've been working in the NHS for 20 plus years.  Amazingly I've kept the job despite struggling when trying to complete several things at once and have feelings of incompetence and inadequacy often.  Anxiety and stress have been a constant feature for me.    Originally I was employed as a medical secretary until they changed our job roles 10 years ago to include line management.  3 years ago they did a review and moved several staff to different departments.  I then had to line manage staff from 3 teams which I really struggle with.   There are difficult members of staff to line manage and I can't cope with it.  Also my colleague (who I job share with) undermines me.  I know she thinks I'm incompetent, I just can't cope with the stress some days and shut down.  I was upset the last time I was in and asked to finish half day.  I haven't slept or eaten well since.  Can I ask my employer for a transfer into another role?  I was only diagnosed with high functioning autism 3 years ago at 42 and told my boss 2 years ago.  I asked that none of the staff I line manage are made aware of it.  It's getting to the point where I just want to leave but I can't afford it. I also have 2 children at home who are autistic so don't need the added stress at work.  I don't know what to do at the moment.  I've contacted my union for advice and I'm waiting to hear back.  Not surprised to read that only 32% of autistic adults work. It's so hard!

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  • it looks like you have been made a manager ----- but not everyone is good at management.

    Did u get training in management ? --- if not you should ask for some.

    You could ask if you can move but in reality that is difficult thing for any organisation

    and you could end up somewhere much worse.

    you need to take up something to tackle your stress levels  coming from the 2 sources of autistic children and your job.  I mean attend the free 6 week course StressControl ( no space between Stress and the control ) classes available in UK or YOGA  or similar like Zoomba. Something to put your mind into,,  that isnt work or kids.

    please do not resign or go sick for a long time. You could look for a management job in another company and the easy way to do that is to register with recruitment companies ---- they ring you when they have a post to interview for based on your CV.

    its pretty bad that you are being undermined by your job share thats so unprofessional and in fact could rebound on her.

    try to do a little management as possible ---- some of the best managers do next to nothing.

    so sorry you are having such a miserable time. You are doing a great job showing that autistic people can work.

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  • it looks like you have been made a manager ----- but not everyone is good at management.

    Did u get training in management ? --- if not you should ask for some.

    You could ask if you can move but in reality that is difficult thing for any organisation

    and you could end up somewhere much worse.

    you need to take up something to tackle your stress levels  coming from the 2 sources of autistic children and your job.  I mean attend the free 6 week course StressControl ( no space between Stress and the control ) classes available in UK or YOGA  or similar like Zoomba. Something to put your mind into,,  that isnt work or kids.

    please do not resign or go sick for a long time. You could look for a management job in another company and the easy way to do that is to register with recruitment companies ---- they ring you when they have a post to interview for based on your CV.

    its pretty bad that you are being undermined by your job share thats so unprofessional and in fact could rebound on her.

    try to do a little management as possible ---- some of the best managers do next to nothing.

    so sorry you are having such a miserable time. You are doing a great job showing that autistic people can work.

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  • in reply to aidie

    Hi, Thanks for your advice.  Yes, I'm accessing CBT through work at the moment and my first session is in 2 weeks.  I have had line management training and was ok with it until 3 years ago when they restructured and moved me to a department with nightmare staff.  I don't think I'll quit.  I've worked too hard to get where I am.  I've tried looking for other roles but it's difficult finding the right hours as it has to fit around my children.  Trying to stay hopeful.  Thanks again for your advice. Much appreciated.